Human Unhumaned: Who Is Really The “Love Of Your Life”?

Posted on December 18, 2009 in Love, Relationship and Beyond

Ashik Gosaliya finds out why it is important to find the “love of your life” and why we fail to see it…

I am not surprised if experts are calling it a day for the mankind on the earth. They may have science at their disposal to prove the facts, I have some spiritual and emotional reasons to feel that man kind is moving towards it end.

I have the hobby of getting into the minds of as many people as possible. Huge curiosity creeps in my mind, to know what and how people think about different issues and how they respond and react to the situation that arises. Being in media, I normally get the chance to meet many people in a single day and I am not working then I am on the net to talk to friends and other random people.

Be it a teenager, youth or an elder, in India, favorite topic of chit chatting is love, affairs and topics related to it.

If I accumulate my observations along with others accounts, my observations are horrifying. It makes me think that what kind of a world are we living in, where every human being is not just playing with emotions of others but also hiding him or herself from his or her own existence. Not only playing with others sentiments but also putting him or herself into the psychological problems while slipping into the virtual world, where reality is far more illusive and foggy happiness takes control of a human life and unknowingly we completely isolate ourselves from the rest of the real world.

I am writing this out of pain. The kind of experiences I am hearing from people is making me feeling like I am living in an alien world where emotions are an element for the museum.

Just a month back, one of my friends committed suicide because of not getting the love of his life. Another friend of mine is getting separated with her husband after 10 years of marriage. Reason: they don’t love each other now. One friend of mine is getting back to her husband because she doesn’t have any other choice and needs to survive.

It hurts! The only question which comes to my mind is why have we become so insensible and insensitive turning completely emotionless? Why don’t we value the others’ life and our own as well? When you ask a person, “what is the most valuable thing in your life? What do you want from the life?” The instantly reply that comes is ‘LOVE’.

I have seen people talking on the phone, net, or in person for so many hours about the concept of ‘love of their life’. I have heard people telling others that the only thing they want in life and they value is nothing but love. When in reality, love enters in life from one direction, I have seen people looking in the other direction for better options without knowing the fact that love doesn’t have alternatives. Most of the time we spend talking about values of love, and rest of the things are really immaterial to us, and when it strikes us, we judge it in terms of external beauty and value it in terms of monitory gains.

Many people have tried to make me understand that this is the rule of life, this is the way how life goes. This is the thing we humans need to understand, that human life is more valuable than anything else in the world and the only thing which helps us survive is nothing but love, no matter from where it comes. One of my friends, aged 42, has been trying to find the love of her life since her young days. It has eluded her till date. She has almost lost the control on her life.

We have developed the habit of asking more than what we get. It is only when we will understand that the external beauty will fade soon, and only internal emotions and feelings will make you survive in most difficult situation of life, will we be happy. Otherwise your own life will become a joke in your own eyes and when you look back at your life, you will only count what you have lost and the gains will be invisible. In such a situation we start blaming destiny. Let me assure you, it’s not the destiny but your own decisions that make you what you are.

We have never learnt from the mistakes that have been done by others. We may have seen people in our own family in such situations but we still take the decision to compromise our life and love for the sake of beauty and money. This grip of the materialistic world needs to be loosened up, otherwise man kind will lose its own existence very soon and an extremist person like me will say “let the man kind vanish on the earth.”
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Ettore Grillo

The most important discover I have done is the life itself. I was searching for gurus, teachers, anyway someone who could teach me how to live my life. Finally I have discovered that there is only one teacher and it is the life itself. The capacity of loving and be loved, only the life can give you. Nobody can give you from outside what you can find only inside yourself, living the life.
The book I have recently written may help in this direction and I want to draw it to your attention. The title is "Travels of the mind" and it is available at http://www.strategicpublishinggroup.com/title/TravelsOfTheMind.html
If you have any question I am most willing to discuss about this topic.
Ettore Grillo

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