Why Women Don’t Protest?

Posted on September 14, 2011 in Society

By Devika Mittal:

I remember how we had dared to cheat during our board examination because there were boys in our class. Of course, this is not a very good example to give but it reflects social reality. Expected to be honest is not gender discrimination but cheating requires guts and ‘team spirit’. Women are gutsy… of course or else we would have been frozen in time and would have been still exchanged for a commodity. And yes they can and have united themselves as in during the feminist waves but the question then is of “how much”. Why is it that I find more women rebelling against the idea of feminism than men? Why is it that the ideas of the patriarchy are disseminated by women? Why is there no ‘womanhood’, ‘sisterhood’?

Simon De Beauvoir, author of the phenomenal “The Second Sex”, wrote “unlike other discriminated groups, women are not organized into a community. There is no women community. Women never use “we” for themselves”.

Sadly, I do agree with her. I am not talking about “girl power”, “the girl thing” here. Being a woman, I know that a woman gels better and deeper with a woman, than a man. Female bonding is deep… its beautiful. They say, even if a woman does not say anything, other women are able to understand what she is going through. Yes, I agree. They do understand but they don’t speak up. So why they don’t women stand for another woman? A better question is… why don’t they realize their own power?

I claim to find the answer in their nurture. We are nurtured to live in a shell. We are ‘moulded’ in that way. We are given dolls to play with but actually, we learn from them. We grow up imitating them. We have to be pretty, adorable and voiceless. A doll always has a very serene expression… a smile on her face. We never come across a sad-looking doll ever. So a woman also has to learn to be serene, calm no matter what happens to her. She has to accept the discrimination, injustice, brutality as her destiny. This is what is taught to her. She accepts it with pride as they say, only women have the power to suffer, to ‘sacrifice’. Women are wild, they say. They have to be ‘tamed’ , ‘controlled’. So our freedom is controlled. It is not just the freedom of mobility but also the freedom to raise our voice, to question, to make decisions and to dream.

We also grow up with the notion of ‘survival of the prettiest’. We have been taught to compete. So the beauty, the appeal of a woman is judged more by a woman, than a man. So if a guy finds a girl pretty or appealing, his friend will list out ten points that this girl have missed out on. We are made the ‘guardians’ of the culture. We have been taught to keep a check on each other. So you have women disapproving of another woman who has ‘dared’ to ‘venture out’. Because, this is how we are nurtured. We are expected to realize our womanhood only to uphold the discrimination so we unite and tell them to act like ‘women’. That’s our job.

I know I might receive some comments from my female counterparts calling me ‘traitor’, ‘betrayer’. I will be accused of conspiring against my own ‘community’ which does not really exist. But I don’t think I have done anything of what I might be accused of. I have dared to state the unfortunate reality. I have written this article to make them realize how society has forced us to conspire against each other… to be ‘betrayers’ to each other and has disapproved us to realize the power of our female bonding. We need to stand up… for ourselves and for each other. We need to realize what womanhood is really about. Women are ‘wild’ and so we have to be ‘tamed’, they say but in this wilderness, lies our liberation. We need to come out… we need to break the glass ceiling and for that, it has to be “we”.

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meghavarshini

Our lecturers always point out that patriarchy is kept in place by women who internalize ideologies. If there is a group of women who are benefitted by this system, as Miss de Beauvoir pointed out(virtuous women over prostitutes, married women over spinsters etc), they will do everything in their power to stay there. “Lesser” women give them the upper hand and since they cannot escape the system, they become a part of it. This is not fear, or foolishness, it may just be a calculated political step.

ankit

Hi Devika,
You need not be bothered of that virtually inexistent community. You have done a wonderful job in really showing the empowering capability in unison the women hold, given the right approach.

Shilpi

Nice article.. The basic thing that unify women and y women …lets say Human holistically…is the power to accept a human the way he/she is ..thats the only way we can escape those social conditioning which brings stereotypes and prejudices…Thanks Devika :)

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