By Sukriti Roy:
Do you admonish love because your partner cheated on you in the past? Tired of dealing with heart breaks every now and then? Irritated with the “love, please come back to me” texts every now and then which you receive from your unfaithful partner? But do you still believe in the “And we lived happily ever after” scenario?
Yes, you are then among the brood of people who believes that love lasts forever, probably because that is what movies have imbibed in us since childhood! However, in today’s times, not all the couples actually end up together for the rest of their lives.
And for the others, being in a relationship is about dealing with it in the present times, spending time together and having fun. Relationship status : Single, Committed or in an open relationship? Apparently, people who opt to be in an open relationship are sometimes thought to be the ones who do not want to take the high moral ground. But there isn’t any harm in being in an open relationship as long as the two are happy being together, and also being with others.
Being in an open relationship has its fair share of advantages and is a hit with today’s urban youth population. A woman opting for an open relationship shall only spring up as a surprise for the male chauvinists. After all, “Why should boys have all the fun?”. For someone who does not want to be in a serious committed relationship, being in an open relationship is probably apt. There isn’t much of the “emotional baggage” involved in such a kind of relationship. There isn’t much of monotony in life, which does provide some sort of a relief.
In today’s competitive world, a successful career is more important for people than expending all energies in trying to make a non-committal relationship survive, which wouldn’t even be all that worthwhile. There is, hence, no moral wrong doing in being in an open relationship. Both the partners are comfortable with the fact of “breaking away from monogamy once in a while”. As long as the couple is happy together, it does not matter what the moral brigade thinks about them.
Emotions might overpower one’s practical decision-making knack when it comes to matters related to the heart. However, there is no harm in being practical in life and avoiding the emotional constraints or for that matter, the monotony involved in a relationship as long as both the partners are okay with it. With just one of them practising such beliefs would definitely be counted upon as cheating.
Everybody is entitled to live their lives on their own terms. Happiness is all that matters in the end. The society has always been judgemental. And shall be so. Forever. That should not deter one from living their lives to the fullest. When in any kind of relationship, the most important thing is whether the partners want to stay together joyfully for the present, without foreseeing much of what the future holds for them.
When the time is right, the heart shall signal the mind to let go of the inhibitions and take the plunge into being in a serious committed relationship! That is when the emotional approach shall outweigh the emotional one. Until then, an open relationship shall doesn’t seem problematic.