Love: A Hollow Word For Gen X?

Posted on December 1, 2010 in Specials

By Dishi Solanki:

The word Love round the globe has a lot of bizarre definitions for it. I was always told that love knows no bounds; it’s timeless, ageless, and beautiful. But of late I realized that meaning of love surely varies directly with time. In those golden days of our grannies and grandpas love was a synonym of “LORD”. It was worshipped & was considered pious. But today if I go around blabbering those same lines my friends will say Philosophy mat jhad yarr…bore mat kar. Today love has got confined to those colloquial terms like ‘one night stands’ and ‘lust’.

The moment I say “LOVE” our thoughts start galloping at neck breaking speed imagining a ‘girlfried’ and ‘boyfriend’.  But hang on people, why is it that we need a prefixe like motherly or sisterly to justify the word love for them. Why have our thoughts rusted to such a great extent? We all wear a fake mask and consider ourselves to be selfless ‘lovers’. If each one of us is so capable loving then why are we incapable of loving a beggar or maybe love a person back there in an orphanage? It is because we don’t want to jeopardize our own future. What future will we have with a person with no social standards or financial security? We all have invested in our future, so our love is calculated beforehand. It is not unconditional and selfless at all.

Well according to me the essence of true love is lost in this fast pace of life. Due to the impact of globalization, the barriers that separated our culture from the western world are no more prevalent. We have crassly accepted this. And so this very change in the air has influenced us to change our perception from ‘live for relationships’ to ‘live in relationships’. With all of us busy to win the rat race we hardly realize that our emotions and our identities we are losing.

Words like sacrifice and trust which defined love hold no importance in GenX. The major factor for this dwindling of faith is much because of those T.V shows that sermonize infidelity. Due to a mixed reaction of all this we no more consider ourselves accountable as a partner in relationships. ‘Change is the necessity of life’ & I guess we have just taken this to the most extreme level by changing another human like one would change a mobile handset. Youngsters prefer changing their partners frequently than to sticking on to just one. The reason being clashing egos, high temperaments, no emotional involvement…and what not. The honesty of love has lost its way in the maze of selfish feelings and gestures.

I am afraid that time isn’t far when the feeling of love will become extinct.