Divorces in India: Might Not Be Required

Posted on May 14, 2012 in Society

By Udit Garg:

A few days back I was going through the Times of India website and was reading through the articles when I came upon a report on a Bombay High Court, where a husband filed a divorce against his wife as she is not ready to migrate to the new city where her husband got a transfer. Even after a lot of persuasion the husband has agreed to talk it out but wife is still not ready to migrate and also refuses to give a reason for it.

According to the Bombay High Court, the wife should go with her husband to the new city by giving the example of wife of Lord Rama, Sita, who went to exile for 14 years with her husband. Justice P B Majmudar and Anoop Mohta said marriage is the purest form of union of two different human bodies and breaking a marriage just because the husband has been transferred to a new city is unreasonable and will have disastrous outcomes for their nine-year-old child.

I believe in what Justices are saying and fully support them since what they say is justifiable. I believe breaking of a marriage bond just because of change in location due to occupation is an insane idea and I’m very much against it. During marriage a couple easily says that we’ll be together and will help the partner in his/her every quest, then why it is so much difficult to actually follow in action? We vow in front of holy fire during the wedding ceremony that we’ll stay together for next seven lifetimes but why it is difficult to live so even in the first one? Nobody has the answers and these days unjustifiable cases of divorce are increasing dad by day. People want divorce for reasons like the partner can’t satisfy them on bed, or partner doesn’t have time for other, or partner is too busy talking to a man/woman over phone but he/she says that it is his/her client. More than the reason itself, the problem here is that they are not even ready to try, talk it out; divorce seems like the easiest escape.

I believe the scenario of divorces these days is pitiful and due to one’s ego the whole family has to suffer without any reason. In this case the same has happened. The wife’s stubbornness has resulted in a divorce and a potential trauma to the child’s mind. While going through some previous divorce cases I found a case which I find is a similar due-to-migration divorce case. It’s a case of 1999 where the husband works as a police officer and the wife is a housewife but her relatives lived near her home and she doesn’t want to leave them when the transfer orders came for the husband to move to Chandigarh.

Even after a lot of persuasion, the wife files a divorce case against husband but the Judge of the district court refuses the plead and asks the couple to migrate to the new city for the months and genuinely try to cooperate with things. When this period was over, the judge ordered for a retrial, the couple happily took back the case of divorce. This case teaches us to at least give another try to the changes, as they might just work out.