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Confessions Of A Male Chauvinist!

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By Abhimanyu Kulkarni:

She’s not my sister, not my mother; not my girlfriend nor my wife: Should I care ?

I have, over the centuries, been labelled as a pig, a dog, someone who doesn’t respect the other gender etc. I don’t refute any of these allegations. My prime priority in life has always been putting down my female counter-part. Whatever be my relationship with her, I’ve always taken her for granted. Instead of Respecting her, I wasted my energy on hatching plots to demean her. For centuries, I’ve derived a sadistic pleasure by trying to assert my superiority over her. What I failed to realize in the process, was, that I wasn’t great enough to rein her in; she was humble enough to entertain all my whims and fancies. Never did she utter a word of complain , because she knew that I was the fool to try and compare. It’s something like trying to decide which side of the coin is better.


Cometh the hour , cometh the man; slowly and steadily, realization started creeping into me. I understood how narrow-minded I was. I found out what life would be without her. Right from the part where I take my first breath — I need her at every stage of my life. Your Roles keep Changing , but your value doesn’t. I plead guilty to all the atrocities that I’ve dished out to you over the years. I realize today that “Nirbhaya”, “Damini”, “Anjali”, “Ardhangini”, “Durga” — each one of you carries all these in you , and many more.

Today , I can proudly say that yes, I consider you as my equal. But then again , my big ego doesn’t allow me to tell you this. Nor does it allow me to treat you in the manner that I want to. When a girl wearing skimpy clothes passes by me, I ogle. And then I expect my own sister and girlfriend to wear a burqa. I keep saying that she’s my equal, but I ask my wife to be home by 8 PM while I go out and party with my friends till midnight.

I can’t speak for my entire kind, but I take a pledge to change all this today. You are very special to me, and I’ll make every effort I can to show this to you. Never again will I ask you to do something against your choice.

She’s not my sister, not my mother; not my girlfriend nor my wife. Yet, I care.

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  1. Radhika

    If only men realized the need to put down their ego and respect womanhood, peace would prevail to a great extent in the society!

  2. Raj

    Mr. Chauvinist, please tell me :

    – What the fk were you doing when you were forced to kill and get killed for your society? You could have sent some of those women whom you were oppressing? But instead you decided to conscript men to do the dirty work! So much for male chauvinism!

    – Why the fk did you take responsibility of alone earning and providing for the family? Why didn’t you tell that woman (whom you were oppressing) to go out and earn the money , while you took care of the house and the kids, and spent the money she earned working herself to do death. Instead you chose to sacrifice yourself for her and the kids! So much for male chauvinism!

    – And ya why exactly do you ask your wife to come home by 8 and you stay partying till late night? Let her party too. You really need not oppress her…Oh wait , what’s that? You care about her not getting raped or robbed? So much for male chauvinism!

    @Radhika : Generalizing much? How about “women” stopped sitting on their asses and started building the society? Or if you prefer boycott all goods and services made by “men” ? That’s be a good way to stop respecting men’s “egos” and accomplishments.

  3. vagabondat25

    @ abhimanyu: dude how old are you? 18? are you trying to impress someone? You must be..its good that you are pledging to take care of women, respect them and all…i hope you walk the talk..but going by your shallow understanding of reality and obvious immaturity i am not sure you will be able to…
    @ radhika: its very easy to sit in front of PC and write one lines on gender equality n stuff…tell me how many times in your life have you looked down upon a girls whose got an outdated dressing sense..a bent fat..too thin…how many times have u bitched about ur mother in law..daughter in law ..sister in law etc…you would have probably called ur office colleague a slut cos she dresses up nicely and the boss seems to give more attention to her?

    Radhika its high time you started treating your own gender with respect…cos when u do that the next generation of males ( an even females) will get influenced and do the same.

    Few days back i was travelling in a expecting woman in her early 20s was standing in front of the ladies her clothers i could judge this gal was from a lower income family..probably a maid or wife of a construction site worker…on the ladies seats there were two young women..elegantly dressed..conversing in english..carrying iphones and must have shopped a lot at benetton..these 2 gal did not bother to offer her a seat…a 70+ yr old sardar ji who was seating in the opposite row offered the expecting woman a seat…!!!!

    Read what i wrote carefully and think about it…

  4. harish

    Treat every individual with respect and dignity, irrespective caste, creed , gender etc.

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