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Here’s Why This Former Landlord From Gurgaon Regrets Selling His Land

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Behind the arc lights of Gurgaon, lies the story of several villagers whose land was acquired .This interview with Ram Krishan of Islampur village, who was one among several landlords who sold their lands to private developers, raises several questions about urbanization, land acquisition and social upheaval.

Ram Krishnan

RM-Please tell us something about you.
RK- My father died when I was a kid and my mother used to work in our fields to feed us. I studied till 8th class and then started assisting my mother in the field and used to sell milk as well. Later on, I bought a tractor model HMT 3511 in 1990 on a loan against my land, and completed my instalments by 1997. It was a contented life.

When did you sell your land, and at what cost?
In year 1995, sold around 4 acres for Rs. 20 lakh each.

Why did you sell your land?
In those days there was a wave and we used to hear that village after village people are selling land. One fine day, the Sarpanch (village head) called me and several other villagers. In this room, a representative of the buyer of land had come to meet us .Those days the only conversation in our community was around developers and the cost of land. The discussions went on and all those present in the room agreed to sell their land. I also acquiesced.

Now how do you look at events retrospectively when you hear that the cost of land is in the multiple of hundreds of what you sold it for?
How will you feel when you have sold the land for 1 crore an acre and now on the same land, just one flat (apartment) is selling for few crores. Tell me?

Do you regret selling your land?
Of course. Not only because the values have increased but our lives have been devastated, we are aliens in our vicinity. Because these Gorai (foreigners) despise us. (He meant those who are living in apartments and have moved to Gurgaon from other cities or states.)


Why do you call them Gorai (foreigners) when they are from India? They might be from, say Delhi or Punjab but they are Indians.
Their culture is completely different than ours. Their lifestyle, what they wear and look at what their women wear. It’s almost naked, and has “polluted” our atmosphere (here he used two Hindi words empathically, pradushit and vatavaran) .Our kids have started following them.

Now that you have to coexist, isn’t it imperative to have dialogue?
They think of us as jugi jhopdi ( slum dwellers )people ,want us to obliterate from here , use bull dozer on us , for them our neighbourhood is not a good sight. How will you feel when in your own land , you are being despised .Tell me. Sometimes it’s emotionally agitating when you see people in apartments calling you names and unfortunately those apartments are made on your own land. (While telling this, eyes turned moist).

Was village life better or this big bang millennium city?
Oh I can’t explain how much I miss my village life. There was no traffic, a calm life, the community had bonding; today one rarely speaks to each other in our community. I wish I could reverse history.

Do you want to shift to some other place, perhaps a village?
My son, I can’t explain; sometimes I get so frustrated from this surrounding that I just want to escape to some rural hinterland but then I think , the way developers are buying land , there won’t be any rural place left . So let me spend whatever time has remained in this life here, where my roots are.

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  1. Mayank Jain

    Well seriously, I don’t understand what and why he is regretting. He signed up for it, there is no trace of being forced to sign. Probably he saw 80 lacs as a big sum for his land and then it was 1995. Things change 17 years down the line.

    He could have made a better decision.

  2. Saksham Talwar

    The man took a wrong decision of selling his land. Okay fine, I feel sorry for him because of that but when he says “see at the clothes women wear”, I feel like saying, Grow up old man (I lost all respect for you when you say look at the society)! Buildings come up. Urban people start living. Culture changes. Traditions change. And instead of YOU refusing to change, you are actually blaming the society! Change or stop blaming!

  3. villu

    This is no land acquisition; the guy sold his land and for a sum that in no way can be called small considering it was 1995. If he blew it up (if), he is the one to blame. The value of the land increase only because of development.
    Sorry this is a story where none exists..

  4. Vickram Choudhary

    What about the other side of the story…when he says that his children are becoming like the “gorai” with all this money loaded on their head and the nuisance that some of them create…? Drive around town rashly in their SUV’s…drunk and pick fights….what about all this…? There are examples after example I can quote form my own life to prove this. I come from a village, was a landlord (sold my land 2 yrs ago) travelled the world lived in cities like Mumbai, New York and now Gurgaon, so will not be baised, but talk facts like i see them.

  5. MithunOnThe.Net

    He made his money, but didn’t invest it wisely. This is a common story heard from everyone just like him. 20 lakhs in the mid-90s was big money. His frustration is that his life hasn’t improved all that much is because he didn’t know how to handle all that “new money” properly. If he didn’t want such changes, then he shouldn’t have dealt with the Vadras and DLFs of Gurgaon. Greed and corruption is why each apartment now costs 1 crore and above. I’m sure he learnt his lesson.

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