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Reasons Why I Think Social Networking Is Overrated And NOT “Cool”

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Well this is how we roll, don’t we? We live in the age where it is of paramount importance to let our friends, relatives, next-door-neighbour uncle, his brother and sister’s boyfriend know that we’ve just bought a new pair of shoes, what we had for breakfast, how our relationships are progressing and oh! the song we are listening to right now! How can we just push another second without continuously updating on WhatsApp what we are up to, take pictures of every little detail and without telling the world that we are having a night-out and sipping black coffee on the eve of our very important examination? Phew. Unimaginable.

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Well, Facebook is in every sense chicken soup for the exhibitionist soul. Slowly and definitely, one’s self-esteem gets attached to the number of likes and comments their post garners, the offline popularity that this may fetch, the ‘intellectual’ status that they might receive since they like and appreciate Pink Floyd, Bohemian Rhapsody, upload cover photos of Stanley Kubrick and verbally attack Chetan Bhagat. Wow they must be something.

And you may ask what is wrong with the exercise? Yes, this is definitely harmless but you are losing yourself in the process. The vanity factor shoots through the roof. Not to mention that the motivation to better oneself, to genuinely gain knowledge and to widen one’s horizon is lost. What does one care about raising their standards if a superfluous image pertaining to the same can be created? And in the long run, how this image will benefit your being is something this author fails to comprehend.

Taking the interpersonal aspect of it, you’re not really building solid friendships or relations by obsessively checking when that person last came on WhatsApp or by frantically making attempts at striking conversations and establishing yourself as a creep. Unless and until you’re so strong willed as to never fall prey to such juvenile behaviour, you are going to have a tough time.

People take the effort and shell out money to chat endlessly and be in touch with people who don’t matter one bit in real life, for whom they have no genuine concern but still keep at it for the sake of ‘being connected’. Honestly, staying connected all the time is so overrated. Instead take the time out and hangout with people who offer you joy, good company and solace when you need it badly, once in a while. Or better still; learn to spend time with yourself. Fall in love with yourself, understand yourself and unravel the great mystery that is you.

There are so many things one can do while not obsessing over social networking. Now this may sound clichéd, but read a book, go out and run, play a game, plant a tree, learn a new language! Embrace the variety and beauty that the world has to offer. Tear your eyes away from that dreaded screen and absorb the real world. Do different things and gain as much experience as possible, because ultimately, it is these experiences that shape your character, define your values and nurture you into a beautiful person.

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  1. John A Raju

    It is a sad fact that people are now increasingly becoming mor stylish and less substantial as a result of the social networking trend setting. It isn’t all black & white though, as social networks have made people more powerful in that they can vent their emotions for social issues and people power on the internet can bring changes if directed fruitfully. The people wallowing in the mediocrity of measuring success by the number of likes for inconsequential posts, however, do have my sympathies.

  2. Aditi Singh

    True to the very last word!

  3. Aakarsh Walecha

    Rightly said every side has its own effect… social media is sometimes bane sometimes boon. Such a time wastage it is. We devote min. 2-3 hours a day approx. to it. Eventually our new generation is also involved in this from the school days . They are concentrating less on studies …….

  4. Kumar Manish (@kumarmanish9)

    If i have to sum up my comment on this piece, it would be in word of Mark Commerford, Communications Strategist. He says,” If your network gives you shit, it is because you are shit at choosing your network.” .The other aspect is that we are very prone to blame the tools like social media, yet we do not understand that we as humans are using it. Simply, it is not about either/or, it is combining and balancing all. Thanks.

  5. Trina Mukherjee

    I am extremely RELIEVED that someone thinks that social networking and even the God for saken Whatsapp are just the tools for staying connections “for the sake of being connected.” I truly am. I needed some sort of validation in this context. My efforts of deleting my facebook account went down the drain but I’m hopeful. One day I will ditch this itch. And since I am not into this Whatsapp and BBM things… even if “bridges the gap and saves money” … I believe that being old fashioned will never go out of style. 🙂 Thanks to the author of this article. Sincerely thank you!

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