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The Society Needs To Mind It’s Own Business If We Care About The Mental Well Being Of The Youth!

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Sudden events in life, no matter how small they might be, change us in some way or the other. It may be a loss of a loved one, failed tests, rejection or it may even be seeing your friend suffer. Something similar happened with me a few days back and somehow it has left me scared. My friend was hospitalized.

Stress in the Indian youth

Why? Because of stress.

Why was he stressed? Because he did not score well in an important test.

Yes, bad performance left him breathless and in a paralyzed state. It happened right in front of my eyes. A minute back he was smiling and laughing and the next minute, he is lying on the footpath in that condition. For a second, I was clueless and paranoid seeing a friend who always made us laugh, in that condition. Seeing him in that condition, I wanted to cry, but I did not. Within 5-10 minutes of chaos, he was hospitalized. I was questioned about his life.

Was anything disturbing him? Was there anybody or anything that was affecting him? The only thing I knew about him was his bad performance in a test. Yes, being one of his closest friends that’s all I knew. He wasn’t serious and was discharged in an hour, but this incident leaves me wondering about many things in life.

1. Talking about your difficulties – Very few people talk about what they feel. Very few people let someone in. Talking about emotions reduces stress to a great level. He never did that. At that moment, I felt like a horrible friend who did not know what my friend was going through. We need to care for and trust each other more in this world. How will someone deal with such high stress levels without some love, understanding and care?

2. Society – According to me, bad scores on a test affected him in this manner only because of  the “Log Kya Kahenge?” factor. Yes, what the society thinks play a very big role in the life of a common youth. We’re all scared of the opinions of the society. We’re all scared of not being accepted in the society. The pressure to do well in life kills each of us slowly everyday. Marks, money and status define us more than what we actually are. Have love, friendship, happiness, family and most importantly how satisfied you are, lost their true meaning in today’s world? Is the society so judgmental that bad scores on a test lead to such high stress levels?

In this race of life, all of us are scared of being happy for ourselves and more worried whether the society will accept our kind of happiness. I wonder if this is ever going to change. I wonder if the worldly pressures will stop killing the youth. I wonder if everybody is ever going to be fearless. I wonder if the society will ever let us live without being scared.

3. The mentality our society has when it comes to visiting a psychologist, baffles me. If you say you are going to a psychologist, people will look at you in disgust. You are by default a mentally disturbed person or a lunatic if you visit a psychologist.

From personal experience, I can say that people laugh at you when you tell then you’re taking mind therapy. This mentality needs to change. Taking therapy and visiting a psychologist does not mean you are mad. It is a brave step to giving your problems and yourself another chance. I believe that therapy and visiting psychologists can help decrease stress levels and the tremendous problems caused because of stress if only this stereotypical mentality changes.

Stress is a major problem today and no one should take it lightly. Talk about your problems, go consult a psychologist, meditate or do whatever it takes to avoid stress but most of all, live your life based on your opinions, not the society’s.

Kill the fear that you have inside.

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  1. balayogi

    We must communicate the following facts as indicated in the links, some of which are contradictions, of course, but nonetheless facts to both parents and children in whatever way they will be willing to listen and respond in a very rational way. Only then we can avoid all sorts of stress related problems, depressions, suicidal tendencies, inferiority complexes, illogical expectations, idiotic and socially pressurized parenting etc.


    1. Dhaval

      The problem of stress is not of youth alone but the general public at large.
      Counseling is probably a very imp way of helping us overcome stress

  2. Sankalp Shukla

    @ShivangiAdani – The society is full of mix breed of people. Even how hard we try stopping them from not commenting in life of others,this will remain a daunting task forever. It is we as individuals who have to take the call to rise above that mental dilemma and start focusing on things we like rather than what people would like us to do. Life is beyond test results and meeting the expectations of the laid down parameters from others. It varies from the fact that how you define life.

    As I read your article somewhere down the line where you have mentioned about the conclusions drawn by the society when you visit a cycologist, I get a gut feeling that even how hard you are trying to detach yourself but the comments from the society is affecting you.

    Remember one thing you cannot change them just change yr attitude towards them..

  3. Pavan Mayur

    Yup dude,
    What u said is right , the problem is with the present day youth and this is because of our educational system and our society. The curriculum which is being taught to us in the schools or colleges is not able to imbibe confidence in the youth ,but pressuring the tender hearts to take extreme steps. According to me the people should not listen to others and feel by heart what others say ,one should follow his mind and let others comments from another year.

    Unless otherwise the youth is not educated being independent this things will happen.

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