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Rape Is Not Always About Sex: A Powerful Video Revealing A Crucial Yet Ignored Truth About Rapes

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By Shreena Thakore:

The problem of rape is not limited to the act of rape. An act of violence cannot be seen in isolation from the social systems within which it occurs. When you start asking the most basic questions – Who committed the act? Who was violated? How was it committed? Why was it committed? Where, what, when? – What emerges is a tangled web of class, caste, identity, politics, religion, law and social infrastructure.

While all acts of rape are seemingly similar in their physicality, they are manifestations of various different social injustices. Every act of sexual violence is nested within a much broader network of other social imbalances. These include the deeply ingrained power imbalances in social perceptions of men and women; the conflict between treating sexuality taboo and overexposure to hypersexualized imagery; cultural adaptation and reaction to rapid modernization; politicians, police officers and even doctors trivializing rape or perpetuating victim-blaming, and a million other things.

Our understanding of the situation is also mediated by the interrelationship between systems and social norms. For instance, the commonplace misunderstanding that the bond of marriage implies in the form of universal, non-negotiable consent leads to the non-recognition of marital rape by law, which in turn leads to false statistics as no cases of marital rape can be reported. Similarly, rape is often portrayed by the media to be an act inflicted by a lower-class, uneducated, rural, sexually frustrated male, when in fact, statistics show that most rapists are actually known by the victim. Such media rhetoric further enforces class-class divides.

These alongside a thousand other issues in society are all deeply linked to the problem of rape. Until and unless we fully understand the problem in its entirety, the scope of our solutions will stay limited.

The video explores one contributing factor to rape – gender policing. It explains how rape is often used as corrective punishment to enforce an individual to act according to their gender. It is a mini-documentary of a workshop by No Country For Women – co-founded by Shreena Thakore and Ria Vaidya. It demonstrates how the issue of rape is not just an issue of sexual frustration.

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There is a wide gap between the knowledge base of academia, where the socio-cultural causes of rape are analyzed, and the space of activism, where social change is actually executed. Due to this disconnect, change makers are not equipped with the appropriate analytical and introspective tools to effect lasting change. No Country For Women aims to rectify this by firmly situating action within education. It makes high-level academic material on the causes of rape accessible to students, activists and aspiring change makers, and facilitates its use as the basis for more powerful solutions.

No Country For Women conducts workshops, organizes conferences and gives talks across the nation, in schools, colleges and workplaces. These workshops focus on opening conversation about the roots of rape and developing effective long-term solutions. These workshops are completely free so that cost is not a barrier to awareness. The only source of funding currently is through a crowd funding campaign. If you like their work, please support their efforts here.

Video credits: Amrit Vatsa

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  1. Babar

    In the video, she says “gender policing, by definition is when you force an individual to behave a certain way because of their gender.”

    The fact is, you don’t force an individual to behave a certain way, it is expected, because men and women are two different beings, emotionally, physically, and psychologically.

    The video has little to do with rape. The point that is really being stressed in the video, and has even used Kajol’s example in a movie, is that a women should be allowed to look like men, can have very short hair, and if anyone has a problem with that they are guilty of “gender policing.” The fact of the matter is, women look good with long hair. It adds to their beauty. That is what femininity is about. Would you like to see your father, brother, husband or son sporting back length hair, and your mother, daughter, sister, or wife coming home one day with hair barely there. It is not gender policing, it is what is called being NORMAL.

    The second half of the video deals with they women should not be victimized when they are out late at night. Later in the video a speaker asks, “how late is too late?” The answer is, being late out at night is a safety issue for both men and women. How many men are mugged, stabbed, and robbed when they were out late at night. If women are asked not be out late at night, it is due to COMMON SENSE, not gender policing.

  2. anshu

    Although I love how insightful and deep this video is, how it’s trying to educate and spread awareness amongst people with access to the internet and an easy comprehension of the American accent, I don’t think it reaches out to people it should really reach out to.
    Of course there is no negating the fact that men from any socio-economic background can rape and education has little role to play to prevent a man who has decided to rape, but there is no denying that most men that rape in INDIA belong from a lower socio-economic background. Most of them are illiterates hailing from MP, UP, Haryana, Bihar, South (read: everywhere) …rickshaw waalas, Chat panchayats who consider honour killing and female infanticide still a rage, farmers (even the rich ones), and even uneducated politicians.
    And these people are definitely not watching these powerful deep videos otherwise there would be some downward shift in the stats. So all am really saying is there are more than 161 million tv households, 200 million internet users in India and most of them DONOT follow the American accent or even sarcasm for that matter (Kalki-Juhi video; which was fab BTW).
    The point is if you really want to make a difference, then reach out to those people in a language they understand. Not that you aren’t doing a good job already but it does little to really change the world and its misconceptions.
    Like I already stated any man from anywhere can rape if he wants to rape but the attempt should be to educate and spread awareness at areas where the problem is at its peak.

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