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Gone Girl: A Gripping, Disturbing Film That Will Make You Rethink Marriage

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Like many others before me, the first thing that I thought after watching Gone Girl was – “I’m never getting married”. The film maps the marital discord of Nick and Amy Dunne who are so dissatisfied with their lives that a simple divorce can just not do justice. The movie is an adaptation of a book by Gillian Flynn. Flynn has herself done the screenwriting to the relief of her fans. Directed by David Fincher, the film stars Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike as the leading couple.

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In the first ten minutes of the movie, the audience is exposed to the not-so-happy state of the couple’s marriage; a flashback of how they met and coming back to the present – the wife’s disappearance. The initial part of the movie has all the makings of a standard thriller. The narration consists of the wife, Amy, penning her journal, giving details of their romantic history and the present, where the husband, Nick, deals with the disappearance and the ensuing police investigation. The viewer’s emotions towards Nick oscillate between sympathy and dislike. On one side, he is the charming lover and son to a disturbed father, but on the other, he is the uncaring husband who doesn’t know his wife’s blood group. But the case against him soon starts to become stronger. The wife’s journal shapes him as a violent and abusive man, and his own admission shows him to be unfaithful. But just as the case reaches the tipping point, a twist changes the question from “Did he do it?” to “Who’s telling the truth?”.

Even though the movie is replete with twists, it feels dragged at places. With an hour left in the movie, I found myself wondering why it didn’t end already, and also where Neil Patrick Harris would fit in, because he’d have to have more screen time if his name was flashed right at the start. The ending, however, can be said to make up for the slump. But it is also the ending that is the most disturbing aspect of the film. It shows the mutual depravity of the lead pair in sharp focus and even in the end, adds depth to the characters. The characters are well-sketched and intriguing throughout. The casting is spot on. Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike seamlessly portray characters that traverse the spectrum of being good and being bad. The supporting actors are nothing less than brilliant. Carrie Coon plays the perfect confidante as Margo Dunne, twin sister to Nick. The tuning between the two portrays a convincing brother-sister relationship that is almost hear-warming. Kim Dickens plays the determined and fair Detective Rhonda Boney. Tanner Bolt, played by Tyler Perry, is introduced mid-way as Nick’s lawyer. His presence lightens the mood of the otherwise somber tone of the film. The one casting that seems uncomfortable is Neil Patrick Harris as Amy’s ex-lover. Though it is good to see Harris in other genres than comedy, his character is not at par with the others and comes out as shallow and two-dimensional. There are a few, very few, instances of dry humour that seem too little for as grave a movie as this.

Another feature of the movie is that it raises the issues like media trials and impact of recession on people’s lives. But here the issue is not just an added layer to the story, but rather woven into the story, directing its flow. The recession and its consequences for Amy and Nick are integral to the storyline. The movie also shows how snap judgments are made against Nick’s innocence and the media images that are made for Nick have an important role to play in the lives of the characters.

Overall, the movie is one that’ll stay with you. Even though it may leave you disturbed, it gives you plenty food for thought, and that is one stimulus that should always be welcome.

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  1. Babar

    Here is another disturbing film that will make you rethink marriage : 498A: The Wedding Gift. (Every 3 minutes a man is accused of dowry harassment in India – 98% of accusations are false).

  2. Babar

    In a misandrist Indian society, men don’t need to rethink marriage, as women are using husbands as an ATM , usurp half of their property during a divorce, earn lacs by filing false cases of dowry, collect alimony, etc.

    Lakshmi Mittal’s niece receives Rs. 10 crores in alimony

    1. Green Lantern

      Women are insatiable. They are never satisfied no matter how much they get.

    2. Babar

      Please don’t use the word ‘woman’ as it is very offensive, since it contains the word ‘man’ in it. Instead, use womyn, womban, or womon.

    3. Green Lantern

      I see where you are coming from, but the hate is derived from crimes by men against women such as domestic abuse, acid attacks, honor killings, rapes and the likes of it.

    4. Babar

      I agree that the heinous crime of rape is perpetrated by men on women, and it has come to the point where Delhi is known as the rape capital of the world’ due to the increasingly high number of rape cases filed, but 3 out of 4 cases are proven to be false. Furthermore, how many women do you personally know who are victims of acid attacks or honour killings? I am not denying the existence of these crimes or the fact that they are horrific, but these are handful in number. The Indian media makes a hype of crimes against women for TRPs. Here is a question. Why doesn’t the Indian media talk about domestic violence by women? Search Google and Youtube for ‘domestic violence against men’ to know how widespread and prevalent it is, yet the media chooses not to highlight it. Furthermore, 75% of rape cases and 98% of dowry cases are false, and tens of thousands of innocent men rot in Indian jails courtesy of false allegations for greed? Women are now marrying so that they can deliberately break marriages and file dowry cases, and if that is not enough, usurp half of a man’s property after a divorce and also get alimony. In marriages, women taunt, abuse, and inflict physical and psychological violence on their husbands, but the misandrist Indian society does not recognize violence by women on men. Even in a line at the petrol pump or in a bank, a woman can come out of nowhere and break the line, and no one says a word. Lifeboats are reserved for women. Women have special quotas in banks, office, and politics. Women ask (read force) men to leave their seats in public places. A man is under obligation to provide for a woman, not vice versa. A man has been reduced to a chattel. It is surprising that twice as many men in India commit suicide than women.

    5. Anjali

      Why do you hate women so much? Do you even know how a woman survives in India? Do you even know about the torcher we go through on daily basis? How can you be so blind? 8 out of 10 girls under 15 are sexually abused. Every 30 minutes 2 women are raped. And every second we are stared at, physically and mentaly abused and all due to the male dominating society of our country. Stop being so ignorant. Closing your eyes and citing the same things over and over again won’t change the truth Mr.Babar!

    6. Babar

      All your statistics are bogus and fake, just like women’s false allegations of dowry, rape, and domestic violence.

      P.S. I don’t hate women. If highlighting women’s crimes and talking about men’s rights is hating women, then looking at your comment, it would be safe to say that you hate men.

      Thanks and regards.

    7. Babar

      Tougher rape law leading to increase in false cases? – More than 75% of rape cases are false, which end in acquittals, and this is not even taking into account the number of people who are falsely held guilty of rape and imprisoned for a crime they did not commit. Majority of rape cases are false.

  3. Destroyer of Morons

    Wow! So this is where Westernized India is going now. Down the drain. You watch 2-D audio-visual content and make decisions that affect “flesh and blood” 3 -D humans living in 4-D space-time continuum. Do people even know the simple difference between generalization that is cinema and a specific individual or couple living their life? Hope they do.

    Destroyer of Morons

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