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Of Sexual Parasitism, Anglerfishes, And Marx: A Case For Why Men Need Feminism

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By Prashant Garg:

As sea exploration progressed and we began to understand sea life, scientists came across Anglerfishes. During their exploration, they were faced with this extraordinary situation where all the captured specimens were females. The search for the male Anglerfish began. Before we explore this issue further, let us understand feminism in our times.

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Taking on Karl Marx’s theory of alienation, the separation of things that naturally belong together eventually leads to mutual antagonism. With time, one party is subjugated and the other party assumes a commanding position. This produces a feeling of discontent in the minds of the subjugated, eventually leading to alienation. In Marx’s world, the final stage comes in the form of a revolution, often militant, which establishes a new world order. Feminism can be seen evolving under a similar paradigm.

We can invoke the utopian past where gender equality was the norm and idealize it. But evidences to that effect are few, also the texts have gone through countless revisions and rewritten over a period of millennia. One might even take it all as a hangover of the type: “everything was better when everything was worse.” Yet, what one needs is a focus on the present scenario. Over the past 50 years, the idea of feminism has gained momentum and gender equality has become the buzzword. It had its genesis in the separation of males and females, which naturally belong together, into two groups where male domination exploited females in various forms with varying degrees across humanity. Eventually, the alienation developed, and with education the subjugated found their voice. Feminist groups launched campaigns of empowerment. They have achieved some success, yet the discrimination and suppression continues. Ranging from the ‘glass ceiling’ phenomenon in the corporate world to patriarchal mindsets at home, we have reached a point where a group equally aware of its rights and potentials is being held back by a group which does not know its limitations. The situation is akin to a pressure cooker where the lid of ‘male superiority’ is trying to control the steam of ‘female aspirations’. Eventually, the steam grows out of control blasting the cooker as well as the lid. This is not to suggest that feminist groups will take over males through militancy, rather this will lead to extreme form of feminism where feminism will mean indifference towards the males.

Let us go back to Anglerfish to understand this. Where are the male Anglerfishes? When scientists analyzed female Anglerfishes, they realized that almost all of them had some parasites attached to them. Further study made it clear that these parasites were highly reduced male Anglerfishes. It was a case of extreme sexual dimorphism where considerably smaller males never get to mature without parasitizing a female and die if they are unable to find one. Due to their size and lack of mature body system, it becomes difficult for them to find food. To find and mate with a female becomes the only purpose of their lives. Just after birth, male starts looking for the female and bites into her skin as soon as he finds one. Due to enzymes released in this process, the mouth of the male gets fused with the skin of the female. Thereafter, the male becomes dependent on the female host.

The evolutionary explanation provided to explain such sexual parasitism is rooted in ‘Resource Constraint’ at deep sea conditions. The resource poor environment forces females to develop specialized features on one hand and males to shrink to reduce metabolic costs on the other. When nature induced constraints can force two groups to adapt in such an extreme way, we need to ask ourselves what can happen when one group, in its ignorance, knowingly imposes restrictions on the other group?

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  1. someone

    I am waiting for Babar to come with his right wing propaganda. 🙂

    Anti-women, Anti-LGBT and Pro-Islamic propaganda. 😀

  2. Gaurav

    karl marx wrote about socialism. not feminism, labour and its relation to capital and not men and how they relate to women.

    feminism is not about equality, at least on the ground level feminism is about the female perspective only, the aspect where we talk about both men and women is called humanism, where gender is not a parameter and where the truth is all that matters.

    1. An In-Your-Face Liberal

      Humanism: Humanism is a philosophical and ethical stance that emphasizes the value and agency of human beings, individually and collectively, and generally prefers critical thinking and evidence (rationalism, empiricism) over established doctrine or faith (fideism).
      Marxist-Feminism: Marxist feminism is a branch of feminism focused on investigating and explaining the ways in which women are oppressed through systems of capitalism and private property.

  3. Templetwins

    The feminist perspective of history is flawed and one-sided to begin with, they explore history in ways how it affects women and women alone. It ignores the plight of men as they characterize them as oppressors, the enemy. They talk a lot about the glass ceiling but often ignores about the glass cellar which is filled with men too, working jobs like cleaning the septic tank.
    The pre-existing gender roles were detrimental to the rights of men as well but the current wave of feminism with its one-sided policies created more issues for men, in order to empower women. The power imbalance would be restored in a different way as men are withdrawing from plantation, as more men walk away from this gynocentric society withdrawing their usefulness to women and the society right from the grass-eating men from Japan to the MGTOWS of the western countries, then perhaps then the parasite would change its behavior. It would be forced to.

  4. kino

    Any conformist approach be it to terminologies or activities is actually making us indifferent because we are spending most of our energy in defending the ‘tools’ we have developed with time to understand issues, issues which were to be addressed. We are in strict defence mode, forget addressing, even understanding is a far away story. It is right “everything was better when everything was worse”. Indifference is worse than what we now have. Gmtows n like are the onset of this indifference which is not merely gender specific but encompasses every happening around. Let us not dodge to confront the ‘Blood Diamond’ rhetoric on us “…good things are done everyday just apparently not by you!”

  5. ItsJustMe

    Does feminism aim at removing gender as such? One of the famous feminist Judith Butler (not like the radical ones, who are taking over the social media these) shares her intentions with her own version of feminism. Although a very noble idea, taking away gender is what feminism is currently pursuing around the world. The idea feminists around the world are trying to put forward is kind of selective similarity to male gender. They claim that men and women and their respective brains and physiology function similarly when it comes to things in which men are observed to be better. Which is acceptable even though it is a false propaganda. It aims at giving women better opportunities to improve their skills and abilities in respective areas. Examples of these can be seen when feminists say women soldiers are as effective as male soldiers, or that women are can do dangerous jobs as well as men do. Commendable approach to empower women to go ahead and pursue careers in army. But when it comes to things like rape, they are always quick to point out how rape is majorly caused by men, violence is majorly caused by men, most crimes are caused by men. How can these writers have the audacity to tell men that feminism is what they need? So that they would feel bad about themselves for being born a male? So that they get the sick idea that men need to taught not to rape? (The popular feminist initiative in campuses of USA). If they tried to teach black men not to steal, it would be extremely racist. If they tried to teach muslim youths not to bomb, it would be communal. If they teach young men not to rape, it is gender empowerment. What the hell is wrong with these rectums?

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