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One Google Hangout That Compels You To Question Patriarchy And Challenge Gender Norms

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From 976 in 1961, to 918 in 2001; six years down the line, the newspapers will flash a fresher number of the child sex ratio from the 2021 Census. This number will be used for the next 10 years across reports, studies and assignments to reflect that the girl child needs to be saved. The need of the hour is to go beyond the uproar that these declining numbers create every decade, to solutions that reverse the flow of these numbers.

A decision that takes place within the four walls is not only based on the need to fulfil the ‘laws of inheritance’ but the larger social construct- a construct that ties honour to safety and upbringing to liability. It is not only a matter of changing perception towards having daughters, but also implementing the legal framework that prevents this perception from taking the shape of falling numbers in the next Census.

Youth Ki Awaaz thus hosted a Google Hangout in association with GirlsCount with a panel of experts to discuss probable solutions to curb the declining child sex ratio.

The panellists for the discussion were: Dr. Neelam Singh (Executive Director, Vatsalya), Ms. Preeti Sudan (Additional Secretary, Ministry of Women and Child Development), Ms. Aarti Dhar (Deputy Editor, The Hindu) and Ms. Varsha Deshpande (Secretary, Dalit Mahila Vikas Mandal). The discussion was moderated by Manak Matiyani (GirlsCount).

Ms. Preeti Sudan (Additional Secretary, Ministry of Women and Child Development) described the trend of decline in the child sex ratio through the decades. She put forth the point that misuse of technology is merely a symptom of the problem. The culprit is the mindset that favours sons over daughters. In terms of the initiative taken by the government, she spoke largely of the ‘Beti Bachao Beti Padhao’ that will be launched in January across 100 districts with the worse child sex ratio.

Dr. Neelam Singh (Executive Director, Vatsalya) established the context of the declining child sex ratio right from the advent of imaging techniques in our country that reflected through every passing census. In the 2011 census, the child sex ratio was 11 times worse in the rural pockets in comparison to the urban areas. She stressed greatly on how the misuse of technology to exploit the patriarchal mindset has huge social consequences. She also stressed on how the lure for profit through misuse of technology is not only limited to medical practitioners but also those who don’t belong to the sector. The preference for sons along with the technology to exercise that preference has translated into a phenomenon of ‘demand and supply’.

Ms. Aarti Dhar (Deputy Editor, The Hindu) emphasized on how such issues of social importance fail to garner visibility in the mainstream media. Reporting such news is more than often on the lowest priority as politics, crime and terrorism are given prime importance. The resistance has been challenging for her to carry out the on ground reporting on such issues. She highlighted how this issue cannot be tied only to the rural landscape as the most affluent and urban areas like Delhi have the worst child sex ratio.

Ms. Varsha Deshpande (Secretary, Dalit Mahila Vikas Mandal) has worked actively in the realm of legal activism. She drew attention to how the status of women tied to caste barriers, dowry exchange and safety concerns. She largely advocated for stringent implementation of laws and formulating a legal framework that is gender friendly. The solution exists not only in changing the mindset but also encouraging citizens to abide with the law, especially the youth, who are the future of our country.

The solutions emerging from this discussion were largely centred around challenging the patriarchal mindset through consistent awareness and sensitization. Along with this, the use of technology needs to function within the legal framework and a value system that leaves no room for gender biased sex selection.

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  1. Babar

    It is the patriarchy which has turned women into gold diggers. Women always marry men richer than them. Women have the option to work, men don’t. A man has been reduced to an ATM, driver, porter, and dildo. Women can spend their entire life on a man’s money, file a false case of dowry and get lacs in settlement, get alimony for the rest of their life, and usurp half of a man’s property after a divorce worth crores. The patriarchy allows women to commit legal terrorism. Is it surprising that a man in India commits suicide every 6 minutes, courtesy of draconian Indian laws of rape, dowry, domestic violence, marriage, and the patriarchy. Not everyone falls for feminist theories and lies about the patriarchy and equality though. More and more people are waking up to the lies of feminism, including women.

    Women Against Feminism

    1. Akshita Prasad

      Dear Babar,
      How many times have you copy pasted this?

    2. Akshita Prasad

      And what is it that you have against women? There are bad women in the world, but also there are bad men, so why not just say they are bad ‘people’. Wouldn’t that be so much better than having all this hatred against one gender!

    3. Babar

      I don’t hate anyone. I just want people to get out of the delusion known as feminism which shows all women as victims and all men as perpetrators.

  2. Babar

    It is a female child, just as it is a male child. Why do feminists selectively say ‘girl’ child but not ‘boy’ child? According to feminists only girls are human beings.

  3. Dark Knight

    A lot of women have bought the destructive idea that men prevent them from achieving their goals, all along delivering angry women and feminine men, calling all aspects of masculinity into question. When a man wants to make a decision, speak up or wants to say something, he is quietened down with imminent threats of inequality, discrimination and the patriarchy. Feminism seeks to squash male tendencies and emasculate them. It is a war against manhood.

    1. Akshita Prasad

      Could you describe manhood?

    2. Babar

      Your very question is an attempt to feminize men.

    3. ItsJustMe

      In India manhood is the lack basic human rights. You can work and support your family. But even for a 3 months of marriage your wife can claim half of your estate as alimony. For some reason having a penis implies men also have to pay a monthly expense to his ex wife whether she is employed or not. He loses custody of his children for whose support he can again pay a women he is no longer married to. Oh and in states like Kerala sex ratio is more than 1. Would you say that it is a tendency in society to not have male child. Have a little sincerity when you claim gender neutrality as feminists. I would count your hypocrisy at par with that of politicians

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