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[Y]ral: These Kids Were Asked To Slap A Girl, How They Reacted Is A Lesson For Indian Men

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Given the chance, would you slap a girl?

Perhaps it’s unfair to ask this now, of a reader I presume is level-headed, not mid-conflict, emotions in check, rational, introspecting even. Perhaps the circumstances are just so. And yet, it’s no secret that gender-based violence and crimes are, for various reasons, routine across the world. In January 2015, Italian online newspaper filmed a social experiment asking young boys to slap a girl they had only just met. It went viral, and so did the Indian edition, put out by, featuring Indian counterparts of the Italian boys who refused to slap a girl.

Ufaan states on its Facebook page that “65% men think that women deserve to be beaten”, and took inspiration from Yet, this well-intended video has some serious issues. I should’ve been hearing “violence is wrong” and “why should I hit anyone”. Instead, I was hearing “I can’t hit her, she’s pretty” (subtext: she’s for enjoyment, but I might hit a girl I think is ugly) and “I can’t hit a girl” (subtext: because girls are inferior anyway and I might be damaging someone’s precious property). The boys in both videos talked a lot about respecting women, but in our environment of good ol’ patriarchal protectionism and respectability politics, the concept of “respect” takes on new dimensions. Respect is not a right, but something people become worthy of by adhering to what is acceptable. Respect is, therefore, not given to ‘deviants’ – be it women, homosexuals, trans and non-savarna people – who are incidentally the major victims of violence in India.

Yes, the girls are silent objects (plot devices?), and yes, one wonders why it focuses only on female victims of violence, but the videos have their moments. When a young Italian boy explains why he won’t slap a girl by saying “Because I’m a man”, we see not a possibility, but a future of young men reassessing and reshaping gender identities. That every one of these boys refused to indulge in this mindless violence speaks volumes about how we’re changing.

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  1. B

    Women not only hurt men physically, but also mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and it is not included in the category of domestic violence.

  2. B

    Howcome there is nothing on the drama by the Rohtak sisters, who thrashed an innocent man on the bus to make it look like an eve-teasing case so that they could be lauded as brave. Truth is out, they are stripped of their awards. However, they have not been jailed yet, even though beating someone violently with a belt, punching and kicking them is illegal – just because they are girls.



    1. nagraj

      lol another pathetic article by a feminazi women. when will the Indian women learn their lessons?
      – these indian women ask (beg) for all kinds of reservations and facilities to he govt and all laws in their favor. they forget about male=female equality then
      -these indian women behave in a shameless manner and wear provocative dresses in the name of modernity and freedom
      -these indian women file false rape cases on men (50% rape cases in india are false which the media will not report about)
      -these indian women file false dowry cases on men abusing the law which is ridiculously in their favor.
      -these indian women also physically and mentally harass their husbands.
      lastly ask young girls and women, would they slap a man? and make a video of it
      any voilence done in India by women against men is treat as bravery even if that women is wrong. e.g fake rohtak incident.
      women in india are dying for publicity and doing such pathetic things to get popular by accusing and slapping men.
      so Indian women should first stop the above things
      so i suggest feminazi sambhavi saxena to teach some lessons to her fellow indian women instead and stop posting such useless things

  3. nagraj

    typical Indian hypocrite feminist women. When a women slaps a man they consider it to be a brave thing to do but when men slap women
    they start to cry and say bad things to men. Indian women certainly need lessons on many things including not behaving hypocrite manner.

  4. TheSeeker

    Not slapping a girl because “she is a girl” is wrong too.

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