By Nishtha Relan:
Titled ‘I Kissed a Girl’, this episode has been much lauded for its courageous broadcasting of not just desire, but homosexuality and the issues of acceptance that gays and lesbians face, at a time when any non-mainstream, non-heterosexual or non-sanskari visuals could make one the target of censorship, or even harassment by the puritanical advocates of morality in the country. It’s the story of Sharmishtha, a young woman studying fashion-designing, pestered by endless aunts and classmates for not being into boys, or wanting to marry. Her best friend, Ritesh, saves her from her mother’s queries on her relationship status and is the only one to understand her until she finds love-at-first-sight, and the courage to accept her sexual orientation, when she meets Madhurima, a model for her designs. The story progresses with a love triangle between two women meeting our basic expectations of beauty, and Ritesh, the photographer best-friend, only to end with him sacrificially walking away when Madhurima says to Sharmishtha “I want you.”
The contemporary Hindi telly shows, unlike the old gems ‘Khichdi’, ‘Sarabhai vs Sarabhai’, give us only the regressive saas-bahu feuds in the very heteronormative, patriarchal family set-up, always pegging women against each other. But of course, even the pattern of endless dating shows on MTV and Channel V has also been extremely misogynistic and heteronormative in nature. So to be given the option of watching a bicurious/bisexual woman initiating a romance with a lesbian on Indian television is definitely a positive break from the overly-dramatic, family-romance cry-fests of shows. BUT, after watching the 45-minute long episode, its problematic portrayal of lesbian desire is just an open can of worms, and the worms are wriggling everywhere.
I will not even begin to comment on the sub-standard acting and direction in the episode, where the actors seem to be trying too hard to believe their own portrayal of open-minded, accepting queer individuals. I will also not comment on the half-hearted speeches of acceptance and being oneself that the episode is peppered with. Struggling with accepting one’s sexual or gender identity comes way harder to most people than shown here. No kisses or promises of finding a companion compensate for the personal struggle of accepting oneself, let alone the fear and the often-traumatic consequences of coming out to one’s family, especially in India, which is very conveniently not even mentioned in this show.
With all these problems easily picked out, there’s little to celebrate about this show. The episode did have a moment of wisdom in it, with Sharmishtha talking about creating apparel designs that wouldn’t objectify women in a bid to make them ‘look beautiful’. But the simplistic portrayal of this issue looks like just another pretentious, ‘happening’ trope of keeping up the entertainment quotient. I’d give it 4 out of 10. There’s always scope to improve, however. Here’s hoping MTV will look into its attempts at producing youth-oriented, dynamic, conscious telly shows a little deeper the next time, and maybe also include the basic issues of cis and trans gender identities.