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“I Was Emotionally Ill But Everyone Around Me Said I Will Be Fine”

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I smiled looking at the smoke I exhaled. It was me who was inhaling through those poisonous sticks and exhaling the smoke. I was becoming pro this thing. The girl who was always against smoking was smoking and destroying herself for someone else.

I was emotionally ill but everyone around me said I will be fine, that I just needed some time. But, they were not right. I was injured, an injury only I can feel because it was not visible like any other crack in our body. I was breaking emotionally and I had no one with me except for the few friends who suggested I would be fine if I stayed calm. The days I spent around other people but, after my office hours, it was just me in that small room; sitting with no emotions, no fear, no happiness, no sadness. A blank me not knowing where I was going. I became so hopeless that I use to cry in the middle of the night sitting in the dark because he left me. A guy I dated for 42 odd days or may be less than that. He became my pillar of support because he was gentle with me.

I felt as if the world had fallen over me, I had nowhere to go. I felt like I don’t exist. I started doing every possible thing to distract myself but at the end it was just me in the mirror. I was afraid of my own face. I left my job, the city, my hobbies, my dreams and started running like a ‘failure’. But I knew this had to end somewhere. At least, that’s what everyone told me, “You will be fine, you just need to give it some time.”

I gave all the time in the world, but I was getting worse. And then finally I was tired of my own tears, I was envious of seeing people smiling and I started realising that it’s not about giving time.

Eventually, I knew it’s only me who could fix myself. I started loving my loneliness, I started building my dreams again. I realised that despite everything, I am still going to live without him. The emotional breakdown is not bothering him!

Everything has got a breaking point, that does not mean ‘the end’ (at least, not for me). I understood that a part of me has gone with him which is not going to come back. I needed to be determined to fix myself.

Today, I am smiling again but still love my loneliness. I do miss him but I do not cry over him anymore. I know I am broken but I also know some scares are good to make us learn.

Once you confront your loneliness you tend to enjoy your own company which ultimately leads to a good aura around you. And the more you share, the better the chances of getting healed of your emotional illness.

Also read: How Poetry Has Helped Me Deal With The Dark Phases Of Loneliness.

#LonelyButNotAlone is Youth Ki Awaaz’s campaign to start conversations around mental health and how we experience it in the urban landscape. ‘Where is home?’ is a continuing audio-visual series that features young people’s stories about coping with loneliness, depression and other mental health issues. Write to us at if you are a filmmaker, photographer, animator or an artist and would like to feature your work as a part of this campaign.

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  1. Shivangi Singh

    you’re so brave and I concur with you – not everything just resolves its own self if it is “given some time”. More often than not we ourselves have to get up and do something about it, even if that simple action is just co-existing with the negative emotions, as in your case.
    a break up with my boyfriend last summer gave me anxiety and although it will soon be a year since, the anxiety hasn’t left me. I believe it is here to stay, but at least I am learning how to live with it.. Sending loads of power and positivity your way xx

  2. Neha Mishra

    Thank You Shivangi. 🙂
    All the best to you as well to stand up for yourself again and live your life to the fullest.

  3. Indira Singh

    Please, I understand your emotions and I feel your pain, I would say to you are those tears you are shedding worth it for someone who doesn’t care for you any more ??? Why do girls contemplate suicide and thoughts of “I can’t live without him” its all hogwash, he is out having fun while you are drowning in sorrow ?? think about it !!!!!!!!
    Go out in the world and enjoy your life, no guy is worth all the agony the best way to look at life remember if you miss a bus or train or flight there is another one you cn hop on. you will love and live again and perhaps one day say to yourself “how stupid was I to waste my time for him” pull up your boot steps and go have fun.

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