By Cake Staff:
Tweets like these – which make you laugh and simultaneously bristle with anger – have gone viral over the last few days, as women documented their varied personal experiences of harassment. Though very similar in theme to two earlier ‘hashtag’ campaigns – #EverydaySexism and #YesAllWomen – the approach with this one is entirely new.
It’s a game of black humour and sarcasm, as women enlist the situations and behaviours that are LEAST likely to endear them to their harassers – yeah yeah we know, #NotAllMen, but certainly too damn many of them. The point is to assert (across all the boundaries the internet can possible traverse) that #NoWomanEver should be made the object of such sexist, patriarchal garbage masquerading as “compliments,” and that we need to call it what it is: a whole bunch of jerkwads looking at every woman in sight as theirs to possess.
“Holding my own in a professional discourse with my male superior DOES make me a bitch.” #nowomanever
— Cara Vandermyde (@CaraVandermyde) July 4, 2016
I love when males use the authority of their job to sexually assault me #NoWomanEver
— weepingwillow (@goddamnittarah) June 30, 2016
— Twirlisha (@Twirlisha) July 2, 2016
‘I wanna lick your p*ssy’ said the random guy on the street. I thought he’d never ask.#nowomanever
— Mariska Martina (@Mariska_Martina) July 4, 2016
When he leaned out his window and licked between his fingers, I knew it was right. I leaped out of my car & onto his windshield #NoWomanEver
— Erika Livingstone (@LivingErika) July 5, 2016
Who doesn’t want to be asked if they can be boxed up and bought while working M&CA at Sears? #NoWomanEver
— Shannon Hinojos (@Loversnevertell) July 4, 2016
He said “you’re too pretty to be gay” & I thought wow what an epiphany, turned straight & we’ve been in love ever since 🙄 #NoWomanEver !!
— Best Friend ⚓️ (@TLOC__) June 18, 2016
My mom is sick & I’m worried. But when you yelled “You too pretty not to smile” I forgot all about life’s problems! #NoWomanEver
— butterscotch besos (@nirahyman) June 18, 2016
And it takes on a whole lot more. Fresh tweets are still coming in, even today, and there’s something cathartic about reading 140 passive aggressive characters. But as with all things that go on the internet, #NoWomanEver is vulnerable to being hijacked by the very harassers it criticizes. Dudebros with great WiFi plans are already clambering onto the hashtag to tell women they are “ovary-acting” LOL *slaps knee*. Nevertheless it exposes the absolutely obnoxious and unjustifiable behaviours condoned by the patriarchy, and holds up a mirror to a society that won’t talk about it.