By Arunchandra C:
Growing up was not easy at all. My fondness for books, debates and political incidents over the usual trendy stuff, meant that I was relentlessly made fun off in high school, consistently insulted and taunted throughout higher secondary school and ridiculed at college. I sort of had friends, but they were the one who supported me at times. They were the ones who were nice to me.
When it comes to bullying, it is usually made at a victim who is helpless and introverted, who over the years becomes more and more ostracised and insecure, who will often tumble into a pit of depression or social anxiety.
This may be true in some cases, but in my own experience, it’s not quite true. The bullying I experienced has been my driving force. It’s weird to say that bullying can have a positive impact, but for me, this is how it turned out to be.
I am not ashamed of being bullied. It’s not my dirty little secret; it’s one of the many things that helped shape the person I am today. Of course, the same can’t be said for everyone. I’m lucky that I was able to process the bullying rather than internalise the pain and let it affect me in later life.
For anyone being bullied who might be reading this, I understand that this is easier said that done; that attitude shift isn’t going to happen overnight. You need experiences and support to deal with it. All I can say is that it will most likely get better one day. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, if you think you need it.
More than a decade after those unpleasant experiences, I have a decent job and I am friends with lots of talented people who aren’t that cool either.
Bullying someone is a weak choice. The only reason they come after you is because they think you won’t do anything about it. Does that make anyone strong? No, not at all.
I can conclude that I am okay. I am not just surviving, I am enjoying my life. They are not the same people anymore, and neither am I.
I recently watched a video titled ‘I Was Bullied’ by Arya from Simply Sexy Stupid, which made me recollect certain incidents from my past.