By Syed Akrama:
It’s okay if your kid can’t crack the engineering entrance exam or if they don’t want to pursue MBA. Please eradicate the thought from your mind that engineering is a safe choice. We have so many great institutes for engineering but unfortunately we have an alarmingly high number of institutions which are of low standards.
It’s easy to get admission into a private college if you are willing to empty your pocket but there is a major difference between education and admission. Your child might be getting a degree but they’re not getting the education required.
Don’t follow the herd mentality. Ask your kids what they want to pursue and it’s okay if they come up with something completely unorthodox because every invention was once an impossible idea. So if your kids want to be a painter, dancer, writer, driver or something else, then let them be. Education in India has become one of the biggest businesses and it’s sad that we don’t consider our students as future resources but we look at them as current consumers.
We often shout aloud about freedom of expression (FOE) in this country. Someone makes a comment and others oppose it. People demand apologies, punishment, strict legal and administrative actions to be taken against each other and thus the debate of FOE hits the roof. People who make comments or remarks about something call it their freedom of expression and when they are opposed, they call it suppression of their freedom of expression.
What I’m saying is that if you have a right to express anything then the people who are opposing you also have the right to express their mindsets and their opinions. You cannot label this as a suppression of your rights because you are getting the freedom to express yourself. You should be open to receiving positive and negative feedback and be open to debating about it.
Suppression of freedom of expression will be when you’ll not be allowed to put your views forward and when even before speaking or writing something you’ll be prohibited from doing so. So don’t use it as a false shield if you are not capable of listening to harsh feedback and only capable of pointing fingers.
We have multiple traditions of females covering up, be it a burqa, ghoonghat or dupatta wrapped around your head and face to ‘protect’ themselves from the sight of unknown men. People will argue that it’s our culture, tradition and morality. I respect the cultures and moral values but do you ever think why only females are supposed to do so? Why are you asking a woman to cover up? Just because other men will stare at her or look at her? Why don’t you teach men to not stare at girls? Why don’t you ever ask men to cover their eyes so that they won’t have to look at other women? Are you not being biased here? Are you not suggesting the inferiority of women here? Yes, you are and this is what we need to change. We need to create a society in which women can be rest assured about their safety and in which they are not stopped from doing something.
What changes if someone has sex before marriage and how exactly do you measure purity? What exactly is this purity?
Some girls also make it a prestige issue and they focus on ‘saving’ their virginity. Being physical with someone is completely a matter of personal choice and nobody has any right to force or question somebody about it. Moreover, it doesn’t matter whether you are a virgin or not. If you think you want to have sex, then it’s okay and if you think you are not yet ready or don’t want sex, then it’s also okay. It’s just sex and marriage is not necessary for sex. So don’t create a hoopla over something which is highly overrated.