Like most of the youth of our country, I have grown up watching romantic movies and listening to romantic songs. But as time went by I realised how Bollywood movies were so untrue and unreliable when it came to real life. In real life, it’s not always a happy ending when we meet the one we love. Here are five films I feel offer many misconceptions about love and relationships.
This film revolves around a couple, who were in love, but their love wasn’t acceptable to the girl’s father. As the story progresses, the girl is forced to marry a family friend, who later turns out to be her soul mate. This theme is common in many Bollywood movies in which a rebellious girl is married off to a nice man who later tames her into a wife who loves him. I feel this portrayal leads young, teenage girls to believe that arranged marriage is the ultimate goal. It also shows that a woman can’t really decide for herself, what is right for her. This is a typical film, which doesn’t allow woman to explore her choices for a groom whereas the man (Ajay Devgn) has every right to do so.
This film glorifies one-sided love. The female protagonist Anjali keeps on loving her crush Rahul, year after year, and expects nothing in return. I feel it teaches young girls, to never expect, to never fight for something they really want and to just go with the flow. It gives a wrong and anti-feminist idea of love and relationships. For instance, Anjali never confessed her love for Rahul because she knew that he wasn’t in love with her. Yet, confessing your love lets you live life on your own terms. Instead, she behaves like a meek, docile character, which is not the best image for young girls to follow.
This film, despite being a huge hit gives a message that a girl and a boy can never be friends. It killed off many true friendships in my life. I would fear losing my guy friends as friends. I would work hard to prevent myself from developing feelings for them, so the friendship would stay intact. As a defence mechanism, I started calling my guy friends, as ‘brothers’!
I felt this story highly dramatises the problems and issues faced by two people from different states who fall in love. It shows how two people who are deeply in love, can convince their parents about their union. However, in reality, it is really tough to convince your parents into an inter-communal marriage. In the movie, we are shown a utopian world in which everything works fine in the end. Yes, some stories in real life do end happily but many of them don’t. People are forced to move on in their lives.
This new-age film explores not love but attraction. This is an unconventional movie, which highlights intimate relations in a relationship without marriage. However, people appreciated this movie for its concept of a couple having fun on their own terms and opening doors for live-in relationships, in a country that is phobic to live-in relationships, even today. The climax, though, is pretty conventional. The love story ends in marriage.
I would like to add, that I am not in any way trying to portray Bollywood in a bad light. I love Bollywood movies, actors and actresses. I just wanted to throw a different light on how Bollywood movies affect and impact me in my daily life. Now, it’s on you to decide whether my argument has some basis or not.