We almost have a routine reaction to incidents of rape or molestation. It is fine to express our emotions of anger, disgust, empathy, and frustration at the repetition of such events. But these reactions hardly help prevent or tackle future incidences.
Namely, we see the following reactions whenever such unfortunate events take place.
Blaming the survivor for their choice of clothing makes absolutely no sense because the survivors could be wearing anything, from a short skirt to a winter coat.
Western influence is blamed and is another routine reaction to incidents of rape and molestation. Alcohol certainly needs to be consumed responsibly by men and women both. But simply blaming the survivors for having consumed alcohol is uncalled for. Perverted men attack anyone in their sight.
Male bashing by pseudo-feminists on blogs: No. Most men on your friend’s list, I think, must be equally angered or moved by the incidence as much as you are. Ask them to be brave and stand up for what’s wrong instead of engaging in futile gender wars.
Blame game: There are people who bring politics into the discussion, and say that it is simply because a particular government is in power in the respective state/locality.
Enough of gyaan. What could we really do about taking control of the situation? Our country is currently divided into two contrasting mentalities. One small section of the society is educated, open-minded, which is learning to treat women equally. Then there is a much larger population which is not yet familiar/fine with women being empowered. This section does not read or follow or understand such Facebook posts or movies such as Pink. These people do not accept women who work till late, who wear the clothes they feel comfortable in, women who consume alcohol, women who consider themselves equal to their men counterparts.
Our long-term goal certainly revolves around educating the men of this country about respecting women and their freedom. This goal will require the strict planning and execution of government policies, education reforms, and several social groups to bring about this change slowly and steadily. Sadly, this change will take years to happen.
Therefore, I believe our immediate attention should be on the short-term goal of minimising such episodes. ‘How’ is the big question.
I believe all of us need to come together and scratch our heads to come up with effective solutions.
Few things that I feel are an imperative right now –
Does this help? I do not know. But I certainly wish to do my part that makes the difference. If you have a better idea, we can certainly come together and attempt to execute it. I am willing to be corrected. I am willing to learn and hear you out. But let us not engage in endless debates which lead us nowhere apart from giving us a false sense of victory or intelligence. Let us fight together. For real.