Indian parents mostly have the most worst mentality although some of them are open minded but their inner orthodox self does come up someday.
You’ll be shocked and stunned.
For me i was told dont play with this guy or that person, dont talk to strangers and stay away from watchmen and so on.
But the irony my my rich friends backstabbed me and my watchman and poor friends helped me.
Moreover INDIAN PARENTS NEVER EVER HELP YOU saying khud bada hoke jo karna hai kar. Kama aur kar le.
I have asked my parents ample amount of help but always was shooed away with them telling me khud kar na. But kids tend to ask help because lastly those are his/her parents.
I mean cant you help them a bit?
Above that INDIAN PARENTS
Have the tendency to never help and above that Demotivate their child further by saying kya berozgaar baitha hai kaam kar. See my friend’s children are married and working.
Is marriage and job the only option left?
Cant i open a startup?
Indian parents dont even bother thinking about such stuff.
All they are bothered about ‘LOG KYA KAHENGE’.
Moreover, many professional fields have ups and downs and no jobs sometimes and i need to sit home jobless at times too. But cant help it, thats my profession.
Ask parents help for funding and they be like “khud kar na hum kyu kare”. “When we were young our parents never helped us and we did it all on our own”.
Started a startup on my own with my own earned funding that i worked for at a previous workplace and my mom is like, “What are you working like a Banya” or a delivery boy” “work at a nice place and earn money”. I tried telling her “mom my startup is about gift articles” but she doesnt listen to me a bit.
I mean indian parents compare startups or entrepreneurship to a Banya’s work.
And so what if its a Banya’s work? Isnt that respectable? They are also earning money. I believe in one thing- no job for me is small or big.
Have worked as a salesman, a peon and a supervisor being an Interior Designer.
But don’t they understand this is the 21st century
And this level of thinking doesn’t work.
You need to understand that help is needed and if parents won’t help, then who will? Moreover, their thinking on their kid opening a startup or freelancing is like- “kya hoga tera, berozgaar hi baithe wala hai. Why even try this.
My friends kids are working in good places earning lakhs and what if you are jobless even later” .
But thats my problem isnt it?
Cant i do something of my own?
Cant you guys help me if not with money but atleast with EMOTIONAL MOTIVATION.
Half the things in life i had to do on my own with my salary that i got and hardly anything was left out for my own expenditure.
Be it my classes, or my divorce, or my other work.
So i couldnt give my parents a lot of cash but then they come up saying again” SEE MY FRIENDS CHILDREN GIVE THEIR PARENTS SO MUCH MONEY”.
But here i aint earning that much, so how m I supposed to give them a lot?
Can’t indian parents have a little understanding towards their kids? Or do they rant always?
Moreover, Indian parents have this bad habit of spoiling their own child’s name in front of others and uplifting other kids name’s in front of you.
I mean why COMPARE? Cant your child have their own identity?
They actually need to have their identity.
Why be like someone else when you can be yourself?
INDIAN PARENTS have this habit of removing kids and leaving them sidelined ki ja khud ka kar sab kuch.
Yar fir bacche kyu paida karte ho?
For timepass or to show you’re NOT IMPOTENT? if you cant help or do anything for the child.
The child cant even dare speak to them about what they want. And instead it backfires saying we are your parents and know whats right for you.
But PARENTS- “we your kids, have a mind of our own and if we go wrong we will handle ourselves.”
They say dont backanswer if the parents are correcting us which means you are bad and useless as a child
But “CANT WE HAVE OUR OPINIONS TOWARDS LIFE”? CANT WE ASK WHY IS THAT WRONG? This is why many of our indians use the same logic in life and later on do it with their kids. But this has to stop someday.
ANOTHER bad habit that i noticed in indian parents-
SHAADI KAR LO BACCHE KA, umar hui hai uski waise bhi.
But guys let us have our life and live it.
You parents dont own us. Though we respect you but need you to let us do things on our own.
And why should we forcefully live with someone who we wouldnt like?
And why cant we enjoy life at whatever age we want? What’s so bad in it?
Nor do they ever support us for marrying the one you love, saying ” YEH HUMARE RELIGION KA NAHI HAI” or he isnt working abroad and isnt earning HUGE MONEY..
Rubbish orthodox thinking. Cheap.thinking i would say relying on someone else’s money.
Are you selling your daughter?
You should instead send her happily and let her marry the one SHE WANTS not force her to marry someone you want saying MERA SAPNA HAI KI TUM
MERE CHOICE KE LADKE SE SHAADI KARO. And then they do that crap emotional attyachar and blackmail the daughter by crying and threatening them saying i will kill myself.
Stop pushing YOUR FAILED DREAMS ON YOUR KIDS.
You should’ve fulfilled it when you were young instead.
Your bad you didn’t INDIAN PARENTS.
That doesnt mean you sell your kids to some stranger and she innocently even agrees poor thing kills her dreams for her parents. Because in India doing or saying anything against the family’s or parents will means they are bad, awara, and a whole bunch of abuses are hurled at that poor thing.
Why’s it needed?
She has a right to live her life proudly.
Moreover if any kid complaints to the cops the cops will arrest the kid saying Tumhare vo maa baap hai. Jo sochte hai sahi hi sochte hai.
To hell with this thinking.
Seriously these are some reasons many indians nowdays run abroad and are never heard from again.
Then the parents would again say- dekho mera baccha bhaag gaya.
Na paisa de raha hai na puch raha hai.
I would say to this- PARENTS IF YOU DIDNT HELP YOUR CHILD DO ANYTHING AND IF YOU LEFT THEM ALONE TO DO THINGS, then DO NOT BOTHER COMPLAINING THAT THEY AREN’T BOTHERED ABOUT YOU WHEN IT’S YOUR TIME.
hypocrite indian parents.
MOST OF OUR INDIAN PARENTS JUST REMOVE KIDS TO SHOW OTHERS IN THE SOCIETY THAT THEY WEREN’T IMPOTENT AND CAN HAVE KIDS.
Because people then would say omg they were impotent and so on.
If they REALLY want to have kids then decide and plan in advance and know that the kid would need help, motivation, and real love and would require them to fulfill their dreams.
Also you as a parent would be needed to. help them in terms of money and so on IF REQUIRED and let them use their mind and share their opinions also.
Support them for marriage and be there as a support rather than a pillar obstructing them forcing them to go against you later.
Seriously WHY INDIAN PARENTS WHY?