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An Open Letter To Indian Parents: You Need To Let Your Daughters Travel Alone

Recently, I had gone to attend TTF, a travel trade show that was held in Bangalore. As I was walking, a girl ran from behind and stopped in front of me to introduce herself. We exchanged pleasantries and she began. “I got your card yesterday from my colleague. I love travelling a lot and so I went home and read your blog. I’m really inspired by you. I have a lot of questions for you, but the most important ones are – Do you REALLY travel alone all the time? And how do you convince your parents?”

I felt a mixture of emotions. I felt happy and humbled that I had inspired someone. Her questions also reminded me of the way people perceive travel in India.

I answered, “Yes, most of the time, I travel alone. It’s been close to 3 years now. Since becoming a full-time blogger and traveller, I travel for long periods now and my friends or family often don’t have so much time to accompany, which means I mostly travel solo.”

She looked partly convinced, excited and thrilled at the same time. Then, I tried answering the second part.

“I had a tough time convincing my parents at the beginning. But I started small. My dad still worries every time I pack my bags, but I stay in touch as much as I can and now that this is what I mostly do, he has accepted it and supports me.”

To which she replied in bewilderment, “I think that’s because you are from Bangalore. My parents are from UP, and I want to travel alone so much, but it has never been possible. I always have to give the numbers of my friends, show my photos with them for proof, and convince for so long before I plan or think of a trip, leave alone travelling solo!”

I was surprised.

Are parents in Bangalore cooler than the ones in UP?

I said, “Whether you are from UP or Karnataka, it doesn’t matter. The bottom line is they are parents, and especially, they are Indian parents!”

She got my point then and asked for travel tips. We chatted for a while before I took off.

The conversation ended there, but my thoughts hadn’t.

As for the first question, I have got used to all kinds of questions for travelling solo, the most irrelevant and the unexpected one being, “Are you straight?”

So I have reached a point where I don’t feel annoyed or pressurised anymore. In fact, I have my answers ready depending on who asks me the question.

Well, it was her second question that made me wonder.

Why is this part so difficult? Why is a girl going by herself on a trip such a big deal in India?

I had this urge to blog about the misconceptions, fears, the mindset of Indian parents and our culture in general, which unfortunately stop thousands of girls at home to step out. Although I have already blogged positively about solo travelling, I specifically wanted to touch upon the parents’ part.

I want to share some of these with the parents of daughters of India. I sincerely hope you do read this.

Dear Parents of India,

I’m Reshma, a next-door Indian girl who grew up in a pampered, typical Indian middle-class family. I joined the rank race in school, tried hard to stay at the top, graduated to became an engineer (I know, no surprises here), only to realise that I didn’t like my job nor my degree. After I found that I am the happiest while travelling and writing, I took it up as my full-time job years later when I finally mustered enough courage last year.

Okay, I know you might already be having a lot of thoughts and questions. I might even have broken many ‘societal norms’ in your eyes already. But let’s keep that aside for now, because today it’s not about me, but about the daughters like me.

I’m not old or wise enough to advise or suggest. But based on what I have learnt during my travelling and what life has offered, I want to share a slice of my thoughts.

You pamper your daughters, protect them, and give them the best that you can. You give them the best education. She gets a job and earns some money. A few years later, one day you marry her off to a suitable boy. Her first stage of life is ‘settled’, you have carried out your major ‘responsibilities’ and her first ‘milestone’ is met. Well, if you ask me what the second milestone is, it is having a kid.

So I’m skipping this scheduled timeline of life as set by our society for now as it’s a different ball game altogether.

Coming back to my point, all these might be the things that you would want to do from your end for your daughter.

But, what does your daughter want? What if she, at any point, begs to differ?

What if she comes to you one day and tells that she wants more out of life than these? What if she says she wants to experience things that are not in this ladder?

What happens if she flies from the warm nest and takes a trip alone? Would you let her take the trip that she’s been dreaming of for so long?

Let’s assume and imagine that she gets the ‘permission’ to travel and gets to do that solo trip.

So when your daughter does travel alone, she basically gets a chance to put into practice all that you have thought throughout her life.

Remember, you pampered her from the cradle and she is your doting princess. Now she has flown and there is no one beside her. She has to plan, take care, protect her and of course, yes, travel!

It will scare her in the beginning. She will be overwhelmed. The strangers around her will intimidate her. She’ll miss the comforts of home and the fear of stepping out of that zone will look threatening to her.

But, the truth is, all these will pass. The moment she boards that bus or lands in a new town, she’ll smile and realise that they were only the demons in her head. So, she’ll rise. She’ll bounce up.

No, I’m not painting a rosy picture or trying to be poetic, but my point is, she will surely be OKAY.

Your daughter will become more confident about herself. She’ll learn to handle problems on her own, learn to manage the hurdles that come along. She’ll learn to make decisions on the go, learn to take care of herself.

More than everything, she’ll realise that the world around is not as bad as she had imagined or conceived. The warmth and kindness of the strangers, the smiling faces of the kids, the clouds, rivers, mountains, food, culture and the beaches will make her immensely happy. She’ll learn to let go of things that are beyond her control. When she misses the luxury she had back home, she’ll start valuing what she has.

She’ll appreciate the little things that she gets on the road. She’ll also understand that she doesn’t need a knight in the armour to save and protect her always, and she can be self-reliable.

That short trip would have made her a better person. She would know how to handle problems. She would know how to stay calm when life throws lemons, because hey, she would have seen worse.

When your daughter returns from a trip, she would be a self-reliant, smart, compassionate and a wonderful woman with loads of experiences and lessons for life.

I don’t imply that she was not any of these before the trip or she has to travel to become self-reliant. What I mean is, travel is a great teacher. It brings in experiences that are unique, priceless and memorable.

So next time when your daughter asks for your permission to go on that weekend trip, please do allow her.

Make sure she takes all the precautions and keeps in touch with you, but please do allow her to spread her wings and fly!

With love,


On a side note, I don’t imply this only to young women. This is for my fellow women of all age groups out there. In fact, irrespective of your gender and age, I think we all should venture out at least once alone to differently experience the beautiful world that we live in.

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  1. Lakshmi Ramakrishnan

    Ma’am ,
    I could say “been there ,done that !” up until you talked about becoming an engineer but after that I’m stuck in the same loop as the girl you met. I would like to travel with you ,sometime somewhere ! If you don’t mind company please do give a positive reply !

    1. Reshma Narasing

      Hey Lakshmi, it’s not a loop that can’t be escaped. You just have to make up your mind. Start small, may be on weekends, or when you find time. I feel it’s all about priorities and planning. If anyone wants to do anything they like really bad, they’ll always find time to do it. Yes, hope our path crosses somewhere! Explore & be happy. Safe travels!

  2. Pallabi Samaddar

    Wow, The part about being an engineer, I did a stupid thing, the wanderlust on my part was so strong,that I couldn’t just sit inside the room anymore and listen to boring damn lectures haha, So took an year off to work , but soon realized, I gotta get back to college, can earn and save up later. But I’m pretty sure I’d love to travel soon after the degree , so planned to to muster up courage to tell my parents about my goals, was about to chicken out but your article came right at the opportune moment to keep my hopes up and inspired :’) SO thank-you doesn’t even cut it <3 Travel safe!

    1. Reshma Narasing

      Hey Pallavi, Yes, I know what wanderlust can do to people, but you got to be careful to make it happen in your own ways. Thanks for your words! Hope you travel more and explore!

  3. Sanchi Dhamija

    I showed it to my mom and she just laughed it off :/ Sometimes I feel I should just sneak away otherwise I’ll be trapped like this forever!

    1. Swetha Anand S

      you are not alone in that


    I’m flying to Japan in a few days.. My cousin is in Japan.. BT i be travelling international for d first time. I have an option of flying with my dads friend or on my own. Am a little unsure which I should choose. Do you think I’d be fine travelling alone when am 18.

  5. Srinath Narayanan

    Excellent post! 🙂

  6. Smita Agarwal

    Wow… Great Article on Girls

    Here is the Great Word
    ” You pamper your daughters, protect them, and give them the best that you can. You give them the best education. She gets a job and earns some money. A few years later, one day you marry her off to a suitable boy. Her first stage of life is ‘settled’, you have carried out your major ‘responsibilities’ and her first ‘milestone’ is met. Well, if you ask me what the second milestone is, it is having a kid. “

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