Has the fear of society so much impacted our life that we forget who truly we are?
Questions like what people will think, what will they say and so on has deeply affected the individual that they forget about what they actually wanted in life and what give them real happiness.
It’s not only about the elders but even the younger generations are facing the same problem.
I remember an incident that occurred few years ago when i have recently completed my post graduation and had started working. One of my colleagues was in love with boy who does not belong to the same caste to which she belongs. She told her parents that she is in love with that boy & wants to marry him. Before her parents could react or suggest her something her younger brother who was just 19 years old said that it is not possible as no one in our family has done love marriage. It will affect their reputation in the society & what people will think of them.
I was really shocked to hear that. How can 19 years old boy think of that? Is he really speaking his mind or he was just saying the things that he has seen from his family, friends, neighborhood or what we call as society.
We talk about development of our country & equality and so on but when it comes to society we really forget our happiness. I really don’t understand how our country will develop when we will kill our child in the name of honor killing & doesn’t allow our child to live the life they want.
Our life should be very simple, if we love someone & wants to marry that person then we should get married to the person of our choice & seek blessings from our elders & live as a happy family but how we complicate things is like whether they belongs to same caste or not, have you lost mind, what the hell do you think & list goes on..
In this situation either the couple elopes to get married when no other options is left & this is not the end they are been murdered in the name of honor killing.
Or if the children agrees to marry the girl or boy of their parents choice & if god forbidden they are not happy with each other will society take blame on themselves for the unsuccessful marriage.
I really don’t understand that why people give society so much importance at the risk of their own happiness.
We need to enhance our thinking for the betterment and development at both individual level & society as whole.
We need to think wisely and it is rightly said our little support and right thinking can change lives.