I have been thinking a lot about how a guy becomes disrespectful towards women or think that they are lesser or they are mend to do a specific kind of work. I have been discussing this with a lot of people and now I guess I have reached to a conclusion where I can say It depends a lot on how you have grown up in your family or among what kind of people you have spent your whole childhood, because our basic mindset develops when we are kids and it stays with us for the whole life. There is no doubt that people grow as they get exposure but it matters a lot that how your family treats women and men.
Our Home and our family are the biggest and most precious part of our lives and this is where the foundation of our character, ideologies and beliefs are made. Home is where we understand the meaning of our traditions, rituals and value of relationships. We see our parents and grandparents and that’s what makes the definition of a relationship (In which two people decide to stay together for their whole life) .The way our fathers/Grandfathers/Uncles/Elder brother treats the women in the family & outside, defines the meaning of how we treat the other gender. Also how the women in family treats themselves tells a lot to the kids about the gender roles. That is what decides how your kid is going to treat people in his/her life.
That’s why I chose the title “Feminism Starts at home” and nowhere else. If we keep talking about it and we are not teaching and implementing it at home then I guess it doesn’t make sense.
It is important to make your daughter believe in equality and it is rather more important to teach your sons how to respect the equality and believe in it.
It’s time to stop the stereotypes:
Expressing emotions is important : Do not tell your son that “don’t cry, it’s a girl thing” Or tell your daughter “Don’t get angry like your father ” but teach them that expressing themselves is very important thing in life.
The meaning of consent: Teach your kids that No mean No and Only Yes means Yes. No other thing.
Teach Respect & Dignity: Teach your kids to treat people as human beings, tell them not to stereotype things .Teach them to respect everybody’s point of views and perspectives.
Tell them that both the genders are equal but incomplete without each other. Tell them we are a team.