“Dwibedi… Toh Brahmin ho?” (Dwibedi… So, you are a Brahmin?)
“Umm… Haan.” (Umm… Haan.)
“Achha. Kahan ke Brahmin ho?” (Okay. You’re a Brahmin from where?)
“Umm… Hum log Kolkata mein rahte hain.” (Umm… We live in Kolkata.)
“Achha. Toh Diwali ke time ghar nahi ja rahe ho?” (Okay. You’re not going home during Diwali?)
“Nahin. Aap ticket dekh lijiye.” (No. Please take a look at the ticket.)
“Rehne do bitiya. Sambhal ke jaana.” (Let it be girl. Travel carefully.)
This is a snippet of the conversation I had with the ticket collector while travelling from Jaipur to Udaipur during Diwali last year. Quite frankly, I don’t know how I felt about the entire conversation. The man seemed to be genuinely concerned about my safety and I think he questioned my caste just out of curiosity. But what surprises me is how easy it is for people to question someone’s caste – on par with marital status and salary.
Caste has never really been something that I have encountered personally in my life. I have only ever lived in big metropolises. I have grown up mostly in Kolkata, and now I live in Delhi. My relationship with caste has till date mostly been thanks to the offerings during pujas when you mention your ‘gotra’.
In the social circles I usually frequented till a few months back, prior to the fellowship, caste was a topic brought up only when discussing the reservation system. Even then, most people would deny that lower castes face troubles in our society today.
Denying the existence of problems gives them the opportunity to crib about the obsoleteness of the system and how it hinders the worthy. Personally, I too believe that there the reservation system needs some changes; something which will prevent the children of already affluent lower-caste individuals from availing the benefits, while keeping the opportunities for those who have actually overcome hurdles to reach where they are in life. But that is a discussion for some other time.
Even among people who claim that they do not believe in caste, usually, marry within their own castes. I have heard bizarre reasons for the same – from ‘it helps in adjustments post marriage’ to ‘genetic mixing among different castes can lead to deformed babies’. I used to wonder whether they considered people of different castes as people belonging to different species.
Then, of course, there are parts of our country where inter-caste marriages can even result in honour killings. Who defines honour? A father who can mercilessly kill his own child simply because she went against the set ‘boundaries’?
I do accept this is one extreme form of caste discrimination. In other places, there are separate drinking water facilities for lower castes, streets where they have to walk barefoot, segregated utensils they are served from and segregated places for them to sit. I cannot even fathom the humiliation that a person has to go throughout his life, just because he was born in a family the society deemed as ‘neechi jaat’.
I come from a culture where caste is a topic that remains under the rug. There are places in my country where it is something openly discussed and usually, not in a constructive manner.
I do not know which is worse. Simply ignoring the problem or encouraging it. I do know that neither can ever lead us to a better future. We watched a documentary called “India Untouched,” as part of our India Fellow Induction training. It was a rude shock to many of us. Some of us are currently dealing with caste-based discrimination head-on. They will no doubt have their own stories to share.
Personally, I got my own jolt on the first day of our rural immersion module during induction training. I met a family whose children were discriminated against at school due to their caste. They were not able to avail the free-of-cost facilities available for all in government schools.
The other time I faced the question of caste during my work was during filling up of questionnaires during the implementation of a United Nations development project. We had detailed questions on the caste of the interviewees. The reasoning behind the occurrence of the question was probably for purely analytical purposes. But how used are we as a society to casteism, that even international bodies, while in India, fashion their questionnaire on caste.
Discrimination based on gender, caste, ethnicity among others is a phenomenon that is and has been observed worldwide since times immemorial. People have fought for their rights too since times immemorial. Even today, there are countries where women have basically no rights – not even over their own bodies. As a woman, I owe every opportunity that I can avail so easily today to the generations of men and women who have fought for women’s rights across the world. Coloured people across the world face discrimination even today.
Like many other forms of discrimination, maybe casteism too will disappear from our society one day. Hope springs eternal after all. But that is a dreamer’s view. In the meanwhile, each one of us, in our own ways can do something about it. Standing up for your belief is a monumental step. And I hope each one of us finds the courage within ourselves to do so. As Dumbledore said in one of the Harry Potter films “It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to your friends.”