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How A 14-Year-Old Boy Is Teaching His Village About Equality

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Sepi is a 14-year-old Yadav boy who was ‘flying high’ right from when the skatepark was built. His father, Roshan, was the security personnel at the construction site.

Sepi learned skateboarding quickly and he became our best skateboarder in no time. When he heard about our ‘No School, No Skateboarding’ rule I remember him saying: “I will be the topper in school attendance!” And now he is. He goes to school every day. He’s proud of his new uniform. And he hardly remembers the pre-skatepark era when he never made an appearance in the classroom. As a result, he was the first one to leave the village with me towards Delhi to take skateboarding lessons at the FreeMotion skatepark in Saket, Delhi. We went for a week and it was fun. He learned a lot and became very self-confident.

What I didn’t realize at that point of time – because I simply didn’t know about the dynamics at the skatepark – was that all this would only support the dominance of the ‘Sepi-family’. And this is exactly what happened when we returned.

Roshan (Sepi’s father) had been taking advantage of his position and quickly advanced to a gatekeeper. Once the skatepark opened, Roshan was pushing his family members, (and his family is huge – nine brothers plus their families) – to the forefront and neglected everyone else. The Adivasis and the girls weren’t allowed to skateboard. Roshan was pushing his son even harder, meaning all the others had to stand aside. He treated Sepi like a star. He controlled who would get skateboards and who wouldn’t. Truly the last thing we needed. Only a few other older Yadav boys were allowed. Everyone else was excluded.

Slowly other kids and villagers started telling me what was going on and I was trying to make Roshan understand that this wouldn’t work. A long, bumpy and tough process started. And it seemed to me that somehow the entire village was involved. It was hard for Roshan to understand why he should give space to the Adivasis and the girls. Roshan even went so far to forbid Sepi to come to the skatepark. He started lying about what other people were doing. It became very unpleasant. And in the end, we had no other choice but to lay him off. Sepi was suffering. He was seen crying occasionally. He was torn between the skatepark and home. And every time he got the chance to come to the park it seemed to be very difficult for him to accept that there were many others as well. Over the course of at least six months, this must have been an emotional roller coaster for him. And I am sure for his father as well.

Step-by-step, we handed over the authority of the skatepark to the kids. They started to handle the skateboards by themselves. They fixed them, they got the keys for all our boxes in the bamboo house with the spare parts and all the other materials (colors, books, games) and they kept the park clean. And it worked. Slowly, but steadily, the children became the owners of the skatepark. Today it’s theirs.

For Sepi there was one crucial moment during this entire process. One day, I came to the skatepark and he called me to his father’s house. I went and I could sense trouble ahead. Roshan was blaming others saying that they cheated him and I simply knew that he was lying. I told him that I didn’t want to be involved in these dynamics and I left his house without any further words. The next day Sepi showed up at the skatepark and came over to me and said: “Sorry, Ulrike!” A tear was running down his cheek. I gave him a big hug.

This boy had made up his mind. Against the will of his father, he had decided to stay with the skatepark. From this day onwards Sepi changed. Now he is helping the little ones – both boys and girls, Yadav or Adivasi. He is training them, giving them advice and simply taking a lead when needed. He is learning English well and he continues to go to school. Only once in a while, the old patterns seek light – and then, a look is enough to remind him how he can contribute better to the community.

Only 14 years old – Sepi, and with him, an entire community has learned a lesson very well.

Hats off Sepi!

Photo credits: Vicky Roy

Written by: Ulrike Reinhard from Janwaar Castle. Little Humans of Janwaar Castle are photo stories in Collaboration with Leher, a child rights organization working to make child protection a shared responsibility. 

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  1. Prashant Kumar

    I have read about the foreigner gentlelady in a local newspaper when I was in 9th or 10th (I don’t remember exact date) Those were days of dreams for me I can tell how much I wanted a park or just a simple skateboard for me but the days somehow passed. Well thanks for writing , I related myself to Sepi in a sense or other but

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