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i’am not biased…i wonder if the society is !!

we aren’t poor of sort with no money…
we are the poor with inability of moralization and value addition… i m no goddess of shastra  … i dont even call myself a sanskari ldki… i deny to be resembled as an epitome also…can i be only recognized as someone’s mother, daughter,sister, wife or will i be always worshiped as the holy goddess… what about the real me… what about me being just another human being…. can i for once be not be all those mentioned characters and BE JUST A GIRL…
i m jst a poor victim of immorality…..
i beg your pardon if i said something wrong “was that if i was on my periods and that your feminist jokes were tainted shit on depths of my heart”
i went from shushing around to numbing myself down if he touched me wrong ….i was called fr the victim of immorality…
i was to be blamed for my rape… but if he has a penises he is so privileged….
he can cross the 7 pm limit.. but if i do i m supposed to be called a character of low…
i beg ur pardon if i said something wrong
“was is it if you offended my dignity not that u found it funny but it was the patriarchal speech”
i may be sensitive but i will be called a crier… if he cries even he is denied …. why is dis role being decided when the only thing we could have done were our’s own role to be or not be a part of the poor with inability of moralization and value addition ….. why is that we teach our boys to “MAN UP” ? they can’t be sensitive ..why?… let me tell you if we teach them to be sensitive they will know how much pain hurts…. aren’t boys as humans as we girls are… they have the right to cry and burst out loud… if a girl cries she is sympathized but if a boy choose to cry or sensitizes he is called a pusillanimous …. why is this role being designated that man are suppose to be bold and tough and strong…while women can be soft and weak …
i beg your pardon if i said something wrong “was it i drink and smoke”…i like it and i do ….and i know the effects that it leads to..but does it make me a girl with poor character…
he has no shame when he drinks and smoke ..why m i a shame when i drink and rage against that puffy stroke….
i beg ur pardon if i said so..
we are the poor of this immoral society …. super glad to b the morons of such monologue… where he can speak or lash …but if she does she aint no young and wild…
she is the reason she will be exiled …. !!!

look people i have no personal vendetta to target only men or display myself as a poor victimized woman.. i intent to bring about a change… a change in our mentality and moral preferences ….. i don’t  beg for your help but ask only one thing that with these roles being enforced upon us are we all being able to feel free …free to whatever we wish to feel.. i don’t want to let myself out in the world where i don’t feel safe .. that child who was abused doesn’t feel safe.. that boy who was touched wrong doesn’t feel safe… is this the society we are building for ourselves and is this the society that we are going to gift our off springs….

i apologize  but i deny to be a  part of such symposium where i feel dejected and disturbed…. i don’t believe in generalization , i don’t say “all men are same” i don’t even claim “all women are being victimized” ……

the only characters i find should be accused and must be called the culprits are: that person who threatened a child and sexually abused him or her.. that person who raped,the acid attacker,the law that doesn’t consider sodomy rape,the patriarchal  society that taught boys to man up and not to cry ,the typical Indian aunties who aren’t standing together but against girls(cs they think ldki ghr pr time pr aajae toh sari mushkile solve hojaengi)….

there are good people out there.. i ask them where are they … come into light the world that its a beautiful place where you can be safe and that you are not being categorized as male or female.. or you are not told what are you supposed to do according to your gender… and that it is beautiful place where the one with power or assumption of having so has got no right to exploit the innocent…. i don’t ask for a utopia , i only ask for a place where my boy knows how to respect all women including his sister and mother  and that my girl is free and is not being judged for how she choose to wear her clothes….. i ask for a place where a guy is understood well and that it is accepted well enough that he could be victimized too….

i beg your pardon if in any way i hurt your emotions or your opinions but do give it a thought… me, you, and we all can bring a change..which is a little difficult but ain’t impossible…



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