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How Indian Women Are Powerfully Breaking The Silence Around Abortion

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My husband and I decided to go for the abortion without informing my in-laws because we knew they won’t understand our view and would have wanted us to try for a son to carry the vansh forward.”

This was the story shared with us by Malini, who was confronted by Indian society’s deep prejudices about women’s bodies. And there are numerous ways in which they show themselves. Like in Nandini’s experience:

Yes, the abortion was my decision but that’s what he wanted as well! The doctor, the nurse and the attendant, they were all giving me these judgemental stares, as if I had committed a felony. They wouldn’t give Sunil the same looks, but then, having an abortion is a woman’s brunt to bear.”

To mark September 28 – the Global Day of Action for Safe and Legal Abortion – Love Matters spoke to several women who chose abortion, some willingly, others forced. The one thread that runs through all these tales is fear – of the family, of the society, of the partner or the worst – the fear that emanates from within. This fear, the shame, the stigma and judgment makes millions of Indian women undergo abortion in discreet, unsafe, illegal clinics risking their health and lives.

India acknowledged a woman’s right to her own body by legalising abortion as far back as in 1971 with the Medical Termination of Pregnancy (MTP) Act. However, the irony is that nearly 10 million Indian women secretly undergo abortion in India every year. Ipas India also reported in 2013 that unsafe abortions killed one woman for every two hours in India. That’s approximately 4600 deaths a year. Such high rates of abortion deaths and unsafe abortions, despite the process being legal in India, indicate that women are being denied their reproductive rights. This comes first and foremost from the shame and stigma that is associated with sex in India, especially pre-marital sex. And it pushes millions of unmarried women into seeking unsafe abortions.

As India’s first online platform providing blush-free information and sex and relationships, Love Matters seeks to push for safer abortions in India by targeting the stigma around it. We need for conversation on reproductive rights, and to enable that, Love Matters has launched a campaign called #ChoiceOverStigma. One of the ways we hope to achieve this conversation is through a blogathon, Women from various walks of life share powerful but poignant accounts about the desperate need for women to be able to claim their reproductive rights.

During the blogathon, Supriya wrote in about why this is so important: “Had I not had the power to choose abortion I would not be the person I am today. The person who walked away from a six year long emotionally and mentally abusive relationship. The person who finally brought an end to the self-destructive behaviour. that led to four pregnancies before I was even 21.”

Speaking about the need for such a campaign, Vithika Yadav, Head of Love Matters India says, “Women’s right to comprehensive sexual and reproductive health and services, including abortion, is grounded in human rights. A woman should be able to decide for herself what choice she wants to make – be it having a child, not having a child or having an abortion. A woman should not be judged and/or stigmatized for reproductive choices she makes. When women are denied the right to access safe and legal abortion, they are subjected to cruel and degrading treatment, thereby perpetuating violence against women.”

In addition to sharing stories, we’re also encouraging people to help create an environment where women need not hide their reproductive choices. We’ve proposed a vox pop that explores young people’s attitudes around the theme “Should women feel guilty about their choice to have an abortion?”

There’s also the #ChoiceOverStigma photo series that explores the diverse reproductive choices that women make, supported by an image and short vignette pertaining to each of their reproductive choices.

Further still, we’re hosting an open mic event, for people of all ages to come together for performance arts, spoken word poetry and storytelling.

And finally, the Ice-Cream Selfie Challenge. Love Matters would like women to be able to make reproductive choices just as easily and without judgment as they would pick a color to wear, or their favorite ice-cream flavour and is thus.asking women to share a #ChoiceOverStigma ice-cream selfie, and encourage other women in their lives to do the same.

It is high time that the shame and stigma associated with abortion is brought to an end. The first and the simplest way is to start talking about abortion.

Why not make a start today?

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Now as an MH Fellow with YKA, she’s expanding her impressive scope of work further by launching a campaign to facilitate the process of ensuring better menstrual health and SRH services for women residing in correctional homes in West Bengal. The campaign will entail an independent study to take stalk of the present conditions of MHM in correctional homes across the state and use its findings to build public support and political will to take the necessary action.

Saurabh has been associated with YKA as a user and has consistently been writing on the issue MHM and its intersectionality with other issues in the society. Now as an MHM Fellow with YKA, he’s launched the Right to Period campaign, which aims to ensure proper execution of MHM guidelines in Delhi’s schools.

The long-term aim of the campaign is to develop an open culture where menstruation is not treated as a taboo. The campaign also seeks to hold the schools accountable for their responsibilities as an important component in the implementation of MHM policies by making adequate sanitation infrastructure and knowledge of MHM available in school premises.

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Harshita is a psychologist and works to support people with mental health issues, particularly adolescents who are survivors of violence. Associated with the Azadi Foundation in UP, Harshita became an MHM Fellow with YKA, with the aim of promoting better menstrual health.

Her campaign #MeriMarzi aims to promote menstrual health and wellness, hygiene and facilities for female sex workers in UP. She says, “Knowledge about natural body processes is a very basic human right. And for individuals whose occupation is providing sexual services, it becomes even more important.”

Meri Marzi aims to ensure sensitised, non-discriminatory health workers for the needs of female sex workers in the Suraksha Clinics under the UPSACS (Uttar Pradesh State AIDS Control Society) program by creating more dialogues and garnering public support for the cause of sex workers’ menstrual rights. The campaign will also ensure interventions with sex workers to clear misconceptions around overall hygiene management to ensure that results flow both ways.

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MH Fellow Sabna comes with significant experience working with a range of development issues. A co-founder of Project Sakhi Saheli, which aims to combat period poverty and break menstrual taboos, Sabna has, in the past, worked on the issue of menstruation in urban slums of Delhi with women and adolescent girls. She and her team also released MenstraBook, with menstrastories and organised Menstra Tlk in the Delhi School of Social Work to create more conversations on menstruation.

With YKA MHM Fellow Vineet, Sabna launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society. As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

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A student from Delhi School of Social work, Vineet is a part of Project Sakhi Saheli, an initiative by the students of Delhi school of Social Work to create awareness on Menstrual Health and combat Period Poverty. Along with MHM Action Fellow Sabna, Vineet launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society.

As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

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She says, “Bihar is ranked the lowest in India’s SDG Index 2019 for India. Hygienic and comfortable menstruation is a basic human right and sustainable development cannot be ensured if menstruators are deprived of their basic rights.” Project अल्हड़ (Alharh) aims to create a robust sensitised community in Bhagalpur to collectively spread awareness, break the taboo, debunk myths and initiate fearless conversations around menstruation. The campaign aims to reach at least 6000 adolescent girls from government and private schools in Baghalpur district in 2020.

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A psychologist and co-founder of a mental health NGO called Customize Cognition, Ritika forayed into the space of menstrual health and hygiene, sexual and reproductive healthcare and rights and gender equality as an MHM Fellow with YKA. She says, “The experience of working on MHM/SRHR and gender equality has been an enriching and eye-opening experience. I have learned what’s beneath the surface of the issue, be it awareness, lack of resources or disregard for trans men, who also menstruate.”

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As a Youth Ki Awaaz Menstrual Health Fellow, Nitisha has started Let’s Talk Period, a campaign to mobilise young people to switch to sustainable period products. She says, “80 lakh women in Delhi use non-biodegradable sanitary products, generate 3000 tonnes of menstrual waste, that takes 500-800 years to decompose; which in turn contributes to the health issues of all menstruators, increased burden of waste management on the city and harmful living environment for all citizens.

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