Why My Marwadi Joint Family Calls Me A Bigdi Hui Ladki

Posted by Sakshi Rathi in #BHL
September 10, 2017
Editor's note: This post is a part of #BHL, a campaign by BBC Media Action and Youth Ki Awaaz to redefine and own the label of what a 'bigda hua ladka or ladki' really is. If you believe in making your own choices and smashing this stereotype, share your story.

I’m Sakshi Rathi from Ranchi, Jharkhand. I come from a joint family – and you may well know how much patience and mental stability you need if you belong to such a family. I’m the elder sister in my family – and according to our so-called ‘ancestors’, I have to be like prabhu shree Ram (lord Ram) for my younger siblings.

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But my title is ‘bigdi hui ladki’ – because I speak what I feel. I do what I feel is right. In my opinion, if something is wrong, then it’s wrong and there’s no point in making it right. I can’t tolerate if someone misbehaves or does anything wrong. I say it on their face, because I don’t care about the ‘society = ijjat (respect)’ equation, just because I’m a girl from a Marwadi family.

I had many male friends who used to come to my home for parties and group studies. I still hang out with them. So, this is not a sign of a ‘good girl’ – where you speak what you want and be what you are, besides not being afraid of standing for what’s right and saying it in front of everyone.

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