I Chose My Own Career And Society Called Me A ‘Dreadful Woman’

Posted by Bindita Sinhä in #BHL
October 9, 2017
Editor's note: This post is a part of #BHL, a campaign by BBC Media Action and Youth Ki Awaaz to redefine and own the label of what a 'bigda hua ladka or ladki' really is. If you believe in making your own choices and smashing this stereotype, share your story.

I have been walking in a society where most people are counterfeit and mechanical. People are running from morning to night, but for what, I don’t understand.We all are living in a world which is full of diverse opinions, endless numbers of perspective and a lot of ‘societal people’.

These ‘societal people’ always seem to tell you how you and your thoughts are anti-social and not suitable for a ‘developed society’. Though these people say that society is liberal and that it gives equal rights and opportunities to all people irrespective of sex, caste, religion and so on – I don’t feel so.

Being a small town girl, many rules and regulations have been imposed on me by society. I was never too good at mathematics and science. However, most people around me believe that there is no other career apart from becoming a doctor or an engineer, or maybe a banker. These are the so-called secure jobs for girls. The way people think is shocking!

I chose literature and languages – I chose a pen for myself. I wanted to nurture myself as an influential writer, thus, chose my hobby as my profession. I have never understood the connotations of what it means to be society’s ‘ideal’ woman.

I left home with my cousin’s help to pursue my dreams. My ‘well-wishers’ did not contact me, but I knew that my family would understand. And, they did.

Society called me a dreadful woman who doesn’t know how to value others. If they’re saying that because I chose my own career, then yes, I am an awful woman. I am not appropriate for society. I don’t earn as much money, but I do have my job satisfaction. I’m not saying that money is not important, but living my dreams is more important to me.

You will face people who judge you quite often in society. But it’s on you to choose the right path for yourself. You have to be the writer of your own journey and trust me, nobody could be a better narrator than you. People still question me on my career choice, but I am self-sufficient and happy. And, I think that matters the most.

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