Relationships are a tricky territory to be in. They can either be highly conducive to your growth or take away your shine in no time. It all depends on the kind of person you are with, the kind of person who each day tirelessly work towards making you realize how important you are to them and how much value you hold in life. Regardless to say it can get exhausting sometimes, but never enough if you are truly in love with someone do you willingly choose to leave them in the middle of nowhere.
The experiences you share are no more just yours, you split them happily into two equal halves. I have often heard people say, that it gets boring, that you tend to lose interest after the ‘honeymoon period’ of six months or so, that long distance relationships don’t really end up in good shape, that there is nothing to talk about about, and that your feelings take a toll on you. With a growing need to be attended to and forsaken in no time, we rush into people, good or bad, we aren’t meant to be with. You begin with questions of trust and future, ending up with a series of answers that don’t really support your initial concerns, you tend to find loopholes and dig them deeper for faults that make you believe that things don’t work out, that they probably won’t with anyone out there. Your gradually declining faith in relationships is no one’s fault, but your own. To be clear and precise about the same- relationships be it long distance or not won’t work without adjustments from both ends, it’s not about being modern or going forward in time- it’s about making efforts for the person you love.
Love is a funny emotion of doubles, you can’t no matter how strong you are or how hard you try can play it single. People look for compatibility, trying to find similarities to avoid unwarranted feuds and arguments, similar interest may take you smooth sailing initially but how do you intend to not let it puncture your need for some sort of difference, something to look forward to. Something that makes you stick for the difference they hold is what makes you believe in their individuality, something people in relationships tend to forget.
There might be a million relationships that break within two months and another million that break in over ten years and yet there are those that go on, strong enough to hold onto each other. They learn, because for them it’s not about reaching the end, it’s about discovering each other a little more each day. There are no shortcuts to lifelong loving relationships, there are no particular people, there is no compatibility savior, there is nothing that can make it easy for you. To go through love and sustain yourself with the person that makes you feel loved and needed, you need to go along. Keep on walking on the same path, settling in the differences that make you different, patient and consistent because in the end aren’t you already with someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.