By Kiran Rai:
Girls, we need to start doing what men have been doing for ages. Asking them out! Women are climbing corporate ladders, flying planes and breaking sports records. But we still won’t ask our crushes out. Why? Here are a few do’s and don’ts when you ask your crush out.
You are your own star, your own decision maker. If you like a person and genuinely want to start a new friendship or a relationship, do not let anything else bother you. Go ask your crush out! Hardly anyone can say no to a proposal from a confident woman. If they do, too bad. A loss for them we’d say!
So you have been playing hide and seek with your crush for long now, and the conversation has not gone beyond the initial hello. Why don’t you take the initiative? Maybe the guy is too hesitant to ask you out and has been waiting for you to take the lead. Talk to him about general stuff like – “How was your weekend?” or “It’s too cold today, do you think it will rain?”
All great relationships start with a PC (pleasant conversation). Go ahead and make some.
When you both start conversing casually and regularly with each other, take the next step. But don’t jump the gun too fast and ask him out for a date alone. Try to gauge his likings and suggest something subtle like, “Do you want to go for a movie/ theater/concert/ play with your/his friends this weekend?”
A series of dates with friends is a good way to get to know a person before going through a full proposal.
There is surely stuff you like about him and hence the crush. Well, say it out loud then! A compliment on his style, hair or just on the twinkle in his eyes. A smart guy will get his hints. Do make sure you are being genuine in your praises. No one enjoys flattery, perhaps other than your boss!
This is like losing a race even before you have started to run. Well if you aren’t going to step out how will you know it is going to rain! Ok, that’s too many phrases. But seriously if you do not risk in life, you risk losing more!
So you let your heart out to him, but he declines your proposal because he is already taken. Don’t feel bad and don’t let this dampen your confidence. There is nothing you can do about this issue and you are not be blamed either. He wasn’t just meant for you! Move on.
Please! Now stop thinking about what will people say if you take the lead. Will you let the man of your dreams evade you for fear of what will people say if you ask him out? Stop thinking about people who do not matter in your life and put your best foot forward to take the initiative.
Before you ask the man out, ask yourself. Why do you want him in your life? What qualities do you like in him? Are you taking this step because all your friends have boyfriends and you don’t? That’s no reason to have anyone in your life. And remember getting out of a bad relationship is far harder than getting into one. So give it a good think before you make a start.