“Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?”
A question I’ve asked repeatedly over the last two months to the people with disabilities who I work with. Each time I ask this question, people pause, laugh nervously and usually say something to the effect of “Kabhi socha nahi (I’ve never thought about it),” to which, I usually smile back and say, “Abhi thoda soch lo. Phir batao (Think a little about it now. Then tell me).”
Typically, they think and fumble for a while before replying. The answers vary, some of which include, “Own a small business”, “Buy a house for parents”, and “Have a family.”
Because of cultural biases and social norms, I had expected more women to say that they would want to be married and have a child. That’s what happened. They also expressed that they’d probably not be working anymore. Fewer men talked about marriage and kids.
To probe, I would ask them to imagine that they are already married and who would be their partner. This is when the women would almost always say that they would prefer their husband to also be a person with a disability and that they would then be able to understand and support each other. Men, on the other hand, had something different to say altogether. They would want to be married to someone who doesn’t have a disability.
We all belong to different social groups, based on gender, sexual orientation, religion, caste, disability, etc. Because of the existing hierarchies within these groups, members enjoy different statuses among themselves. So, within a group of people with visual impairment, based on their social status, they can have access to different resources, which means that women with disability face double the burden of discrimination and marginalization by virtue of their disability and their gender.
The United Nations report states that:
We are unjust to each beneficiary of every social intervention if we avoid the intersectionality of individuals across social groups. How can the interventions designed for school children work, if we don’t consider gender, puberty and age? For one child, the challenge can be an increased pressure to earn a living for the family, while for the other, it can be because of the onset of menstruation.
Pritha Sengupta is a 2017 cohort India Fellow, working with Tech Mahindra Foundation, Delhi. She supports the Foundation with skill development of differently abled people, along with improving systems and processes of education programs with research and design.