Let me get straight to the point.
If you here expecting this to be a flowery post, with all the good things and expecting insights about some BIG FAT INDIAN wedding, then leave right away. Because this post is not by any means about the flowery and that pretty side of Indian wedding.
This post is about the sick mentality of Indian parents.
Yes, they don’t want you to fuck a guy during college because you don’t know him. But sure go get fucked on your wedding night by a complete stranger whom we have chosen for you because of his hefty package.
You — you don’t a right to choose your partner. And, then they say you don’t take your decisions in life, when will you grow up?
That’s how it is with Indian parents.
“Yes, we want you to be happy.” That’s what they say. What they really mean is, we are happy only as long as all our relatives approve of your happiness, and then girl to whom you are going to marry. But, wait even if they are happy then our society, and our neighbors must also approve of it. And, how can we forget about our Pandit ji… who has the birth right to screw every lovely couple’s dream, because somehow some scriptures tell him that this marriage is screwed!
That’s the real story behind Indian marriage.
And, if you thought I was talking about arrange marriage sorry to disappoint. This was the case of a love marriage.
The computer screen will start to bleed if I just started about the topic of arrange marriage. In that case you even have to get the approval of your ‘kaam wali bai’ (domestic help), otherwise ‘log kya kahenge’ (what will people say).
Sick mentality
“If her parents won’t approve of the marriage, how will you two be happy together?”
Am I going to marry her or her parents? Ridiculous!
Does happiness depend on how the parents are going to feel about us after marriage or how well do we spend time together? That’s the bloody problem with Indian parents.
“Chaahte hum tumhaari khushi hain, but wo khushi kya h wo hum decide krege.”
(We want you to be happy, but where your happiness resides that we will decide)
This is the UNIVERSAL SLOGAN of an Indian parent.
And, when kids decide to take things in their own hand and take a step towards their own happiness, then the only words come from the parents are “bas yahi din dekhne k liye itna padhaya tha. is se to achha bahr padhne k liye na bhejte, kam se bigadte to na.”
(We sent you out to study just to see this day. It would have been better we would have not let you out of home, at least you would not have been a rebel.
For Indian parents, choosing your happiness means you are rebelling. Doing things the way you want to means you are disrespecting them. Taking control of your life means you are not a good kid.
I don’t agree!