Anand Ahuja marries Sonam Kapoor, so some feel he leverages from the limelight she gets. They have been in a relationship for some time now and hence their decision to take it to the next level. Isn’t it just love?
Sonam Kapoor changes her name after marriage… I believe that’s a practice in the society we live in and a personal decision too.
Anand Ahuja adds an S to his name after marriage… can we at least appreciate the act?
This celebrity wedding has been in the news for some time now, and it made me realise how incessantly obsessed we are with passing negative comments.
Anyway. It’s not about this marriage but about us. We outrage about such things because, for us, it’s a point worth passing judgement upon, at that moment. If there’s nothing else to comment on, it’ll be something as glamorous as their clothes, as unique as the sneakers the groom wore at the reception or the bride’s sister wore for the marriage (yes, even I observed those two things). We keep our hands and minds full. No space for any sensible talks. There’s so much to judge. Good or bad, who cares?
I always find this deep urge to question, point fingers and judge myself first, before going anywhere else. It would at least let me know my purpose. Either way, as humans we cant stop judging since we have been hardwired to do it, why not reflect upon ourselves first? We negatively judge others, create perceptions and unintentionally showcase our insecurities. It represents the world we live in. Passing judgements is not an act of empathy but portrays us as insecure by typecasting the other person as whatever we would want them to be.
We judge everyone in our social environment, starting from a parent or child, a spouse or partner, a coworker or boss, a close friend or a virtual one, acquaintances, celebrities and politicians. What we fail to realise and answer for ourselves is how do we use judgement. Are we flexible enough for our thoughts to change, do we change our opinions about people as per new information or restrict them in a cardboard box and finally are we willing to accept others judgements about us and change our ways? If these can be checked upon, it would be defined as a positive judgement. Of course, a negative judgement does not a have a place anywhere. Its harmful effect is indefinite.
It’s as social a requirement as much it is a personal one. If this is realized, every person will begin to have a humble change. Every other man like Anand Ahuja would be respected, appreciated and celebrated for his heartiest gesture. Feminism and a lot of other important issues would have a better picture to look up to. The concerns arising in the society would many decent solutions in a shorter span of time. The judgements passed would be more sensible and mature and not out of desperation to use an unauthentic voice raised without any spine… if only we, the youth, understand the power of positive or good judgement.