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How My Mother Fought Patriarchal Notions In Bihar To Raise Her 4 Daughters

Maa comes from a typical village of Bihar but with a not-so-typical attitude towards her daughters. Married into a joint family and being the youngest daughter-in-law in the family makes it difficult for a woman to have her voice heard.

She is the mother of four daughters in a community which still believes sons to be an essential part of one’s family in order to be complete. Hold on, she has also been the survivor of patriarchal like“Shankar ji (her husband) ke hisse ki khet kaun dekhega (Who will look after Shankar ji’s farms)?” and “Sab kuch toh thik hai per ek beta ho jata toh sahi rehta (If only they had had one son, then everything would have been great).”

Her emphasis on getting her daughters educated has always welcomed statements like “Hum apne bete ko English medium mai nahi padha rahe tum beti log ko padha rahi ho (We’re not even sending our sons to English-medium schools and you’re sending your daughters!).” Also, her daughters moving out for a degree invited ridiculous comments like “BA karne ke liye bahar kaun jata hai (Who leaves the state to do just a BA),” and “Jab engineering medical nahi karna hai toh bahar kya karogi jaake? (When you aren’t pursuing engineering or medical, what’s the point of going out?)” and so on.

But the only thing that never stopped this mom was her firm determination to see her daughters become financially independent one fine day. Your daughters will always be grateful for the values you gave them and will forever carry them in their hearts. For always doing good to others and never settling in life without being financially independent.

Happy Mother’s Day,Maa❤

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