I had earlier written about young Indians not being keen to move out of their parents’ home because they get all the freedom and the financial support that the previous generation didn’t get from their parents. Most often even if they move out of their parents’ homes, they are not averse to asking their folks for advice, cash and don’t even mind involving them in every aspect of their life.
I am guilty of doing this for a long time, no matter how much my dad tries to pacify me for doing so. I often feel guilty for not being able to put things together in life. I was, in fact, moving from one job to another during the span of 6-8 months, I had left three jobs in four years as things went beyond my control. I went from journalism, content writing to digital marketing trying to figure out what works.
When I came across an article on Arre, I realized that my life is no different from many other millennials. I am someone who wanted to move out, live independently not involving parents in all aspects of my life. But unfortunately, I couldn’t achieve it.
When I am home during a break, my dad feeds and run around to do everything for me like a small kid, while I have to run all the errands back in Bangalore by myself. This kind of pampering makes me realize that if I hadn’t moved out for studies and spent a considerable time away from home, I would have turned out to be a grown-up baby.
For my mom, it’s about making my dishes and watching movies together. It turned out to be lesser over the period of time, and she found it difficult to accept. She doesn’t realise that I have changed from a boy who shared everything that happened in school to almost nothing now.
I am capable of doing things on my own when I was my own. But it’s different while at I am at my parents’ house. It’s more comfortable, luxurious and an easy life over here than in a big city. I prefer the other life where I had to deal with limited resources, less comfort and luxury, but there is a kind of pleasure in living life that way.
I want to make enough money so that I am not in any way dependent on my parents. I don’t want to drag my parents into having a four-day destination wedding with the cocktails, sangeet, mehendi and a foreign honeymoon. I will do it if I can afford it myself. I will be moving to Canada soon to rebuild my life because I don’t want to lead one where I have to call my mom to kill the cockroach in my room.