Well, this isn’t an article about women’s rights or transgender people. It isn’t about chromosomal inheritance. It’s about her, who is biologically female, but her choice of clothes, participation in sports, and ‘rough and tough’ attitude is considered to not be ‘feminine’.
‘She must be a ‘tomboy’, ‘Or maybe she is one of those LGBT people…’. ‘It’s all kind of shit, these people just don’t fit into a particular gender’, ‘Do you think she is a lesbian?’
Since a young age, when we are brought up with the thought that women are comparatively weaker and men are gifted with a lot of strength, in both the cases of men and women respectively, it takes a shape when we grow up. The thoughts are then transformed into mindsets. At that time, if they witness a girl who is ‘unfeminine’ or a boy ‘less masculine’, they start mocking them. And that’s common. If something doesn’t suit the societal norms, break it down.
There are several stereotypes associated with women who ‘appear masculine’. One of them is inferiority complex’. Many believe that women who believe that men are superior to them, regret being one of them and change their behaviour to appear more ‘manly’. This is one of the weirdest thought our mindset can gift to us.
The second stereotype is lesbianism. This too is common among the so-called ‘educated’ ones. I guess mother nature should confirm it to people, that this is just a behavioural form and sexuality has nothing to do with it.
The third kind of stereotype is ‘assumption of origin’. A heartbreak, teenage isolation, family problems and so on and so forth. It is assumed that some situation pushed a woman to change her behaviour. These frames sometimes lead to interrogation like “Were you the same since birth?”, “When did you realise you were a tomboy?”, “Did your parents feel like raising their daughter like a son?”
Perhaps I was surrounded by lot guy friends when I was young. Perhaps growing up in a situation where fighting is the only way to get what you are worth, made me this way. Perhaps my young mind witnessed a lot of social injustices done to women and the aggression turned into my attitude.
Explaining different behaviour and characteristics is an unending chapter. But this article, however, ends with an extract from my diary, which reads –
“They portray me in the canvas they are comfortable with. Perhaps I don’t gossip around, I don’t dress up, talk about beauty products and soaps. Or. Perhaps the objectionable being is found interesting enough to discuss around. Anyways, my limited edition breaths aren’t here to listen what they talk around. The soul is just to explore this edition package, and it will.”