A question which I miserably fail to understand is whether marriage is a personal choice or a necessity in society. Even though many of us believe that it is a choice, there are still so many situations when a marriage is dictated by societal norms. When a man decides to remain a bachelor, for professional growth or personal reasons, it’s not that a big deal. But when it comes to a woman, the same attitude does not apply for many.
Some manage to fight against society’s norms, but for some it’s as if they have no option. Those women who don’t chose marriage gain less respect, and are stereotyped. On the other hand, those women who endure heinous crimes like mental torture, marital rape, and domestic violence are forced stay in their marriage for that very same respect. Many will sacrifice their careers, immediate family, and often their own identity in the process.
Marriage which is a bond of trust, mutual understanding, and love loses its significance on the first instance of domestic violence, marital rape, suppression, distrust and more. In situations like these, can marriage be treated as a choice rather than a necessity set by society?
She is given the title of the house-maker,
By sacrificing her own dreams and desires.
She is held responsible for family life,
By ending up her own career and professional life.
She is entitled with the task of unity,
By risking up her own safety.
Therefore, I fail to understand this mystery,
Marriage is a choice or a necessity?
She is referred as the peace maker,
By limiting up her own career.
She is to manage household chaos,
By keeping aside her own professional vows.
She is asked to bring goodwill within the family,
By ignoring her own will for the betterment of the family.
Therefore, I fail to understand this mystery,
Marriage is a choice or a necessity?
She is to illuminate the glorious lights,
By suffering all the tortuous nights.
She is asked to be the honor of her husband,
By giving up her own self respect.
she is to stand firm in all the troubles,
by not uttering a single word about her own hurdle.
Therefore, I fail to understand this mystery,
Marriage is a choice or a necessity?
There are many couples who make marriage look like an entirely peaceful journey, coupled who respect each other, and stand with each other. Hats off to those husbands who respect their beloved wives, and stick around through all the ups and downs. However, there are still so many women who are suppressed by our patriarchal society, and who are not allowed to live their lives according to their will.