We all have grown up in a society where we are made to think, act, and work according to some pre-set notions. And if you oppose the society’s ideologies, then get ready to be labelled. Since our childhood, we are taught that a female should act soberly. According to the society we live in, a woman is delicate, emotional, and ideal for taking care of the household chores only, but what about the men living in our society? The men are looked upon as the strongest individuals who are beyond perfect in almost everything. Even the film industry is not behind in personifying a man as the strongest individual on the planet. Heard Amitabh Bachchan saying the lines “Mard ko kabhi dard nahi hota” (A man never feels pain) in one of his movies?
Well, sorry to disagree with you on this point sir, but I think even men undergo situations of extreme pain. I have seen my father working tirelessly for our family without even expressing his grief or discomfort even once. When my father returns from work, his facial expressions explicitly convey his pain that he beautifully hides behind his smile. Whenever something unfortunate happens with a woman, she has the option to file a case against her perpetrator by reaching out to the nearest police station. Every alternate day our news channels are flooded with headlines surmising the rape of women across the country. Sexual violence against men is hardly as pervasive as that against women.
Since women were not getting equal rights related to employment, pay, and freedom as was being enjoyed by the men in the society, the concept of feminism gained significant momentum. Yes, India needs feminism but not the way some females are using it to their advantage nowadays. If you feel I am supporting the male section of the society in this article, then you are wrong. I am neither supporting the male part of the nation nor the female one. I am just defending the humans who are right. Please take a look at some instances and decide whether I am right in my way of thinking or not.
First Case:
Everyone knows that Mumbai local stations are always jam-packed, especially during the office hours. Yes, some perverts try to take advantage of this situation and touch women inappropriately, but don’t you think you should be able to make out the difference between an “INTENTIONAL” touch and an “ACCIDENTAL” touch? A man around 45 years of age was running late for office, and he accidentally hit a woman on the platform. He apologized for it multiple times and tried to explain his situation, but the lady became furious and decided to push him towards the railway track. As a result, he fell on the tracks while a train was about to come and had to give up on his life.
Now my question is, was it justified from the women’s end? She could have handed over the men to the police authority. Or if what she did was justified, then why didn’t she come ahead and threw all the accused men of the Kathua gang-rape case on the same railway track?
Second Case:
Unlike other millennials, even I spend time streaming videos on YouTube. I am sure you must have seen roast videos on the platform. Well, roast videos are made with a fun intent where the roasters make fun of other people without taking the video content to a personal level. People who watch roast videos must have noticed that almost all the roasters have made videos on each other in a humorous way. One day, while streaming videos, I was aghast to see that a famous YouTuber’s channel was put down as a female YouTuber decided to put a strike on his channel. What amused me was not the course of action that she chose, but her reason for putting a strike on a YouTuber’s channel. Ideally, the lady I am talking about is a female YouTuber who is also a roaster, and even she roasts other people. Her previous videos also contained abusive words that were not fit for the platform. Now the irony is, the female YouTuber decided to put a strike on the other YouTuber’s video for the reason that even she exercises on the same platform.
Suppose both a male and a female have a good sense of humor. Now when the female cracks a joke on the other person it is completely wonderful, but the moment a similar thing is done by the male he is subjected to lewd remarks. How will you react to it if something like this happens with your brother?
Third Case:
While I was researching on this topic, I had a discussion with some activists on Twitter who fight for men’s right (Yes, they exist). A weekly meetup is held in different cities wherein all the men who have fallen victim to fake cases gather to come up with some useful idea to fight their way out. As the discussion proceeded, I was astonished to know that there are men who are subjected to physical abuse, domestic violence, fake dowry and rape cases, and whatnot. One person even had to sell his kidney to pay the amount imposed on him against a phony rape case. Now if the person was a rapist or was that bad, then don’t you think he could have come up with some other heinous act to arrange for the amount instead of selling his kidney?
Just because men never open up on such topics, it doesn’t mean that they never get victimized. Be it a female or a male; anyone can become a victim. When a man gets raped, he cannot even think of reporting it to the police because he knows he will be laughed at when he discloses something like this. We all have received and forwarded several messages on Whatsapp wherein a male being beaten up by his wife becomes the subject of mockery by everyone in the group. These messages are considered to be “Jokes.”
When you fight for justice, please make sure that justice is given to the victim, irrespective of the gender. It should be a fight between the “right and wrong,” and not between the “male and female,” section of the society. Just like not all fingers are equal, not all the men are wrong. Similar is the case with the females also. Please be sensitive towards people. If you want to punish, then make sure punishment is given to the person who has actually committed the crime and not to any random person, based on his gender.