For her, it was a drunken night. For Kabir, it was more. Does he realise what he did when he made the private public?
Rejection stings! Yet, each spark of attraction comes with an equal chance of not being reciprocated. If the probability of getting rejected is so high, can we afford to be ill-prepared in handling rejection?
Kabir grappled with many such feelings too. Instead of leading to ‘something more’ as Kabir expected after a passionate encounter at a party, his female colleague regretted it the next day. Having a boyfriend already, she wanted to sort the drunken lapse with Kabir. However, consumed by frustration and feeling let-down, he shared her intimate pictures, clicked at the party, with other colleagues. The situation got worse and eventually, Kabir switched his job.
Intimacy and romance survive on consent, not compulsion. Rejection is an inevitable part of navigating desire and attraction. It’s simply an expression of how the other person feels – not a negation of who you are. Unreciprocated attraction may hurt – so acknowledge the pain, pick up yourself and move on. Negative feelings of anger and revenge do not help. So if you feel them – pause – don’t act on it. Take stock of your feelings, mend yourself. But don’t harm.
Actions taken under influence of negativity cause irreversible harm. Acknowledge the hurt, try to heal and move one!