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What We Can Learn About Sex-Positivity From Witchcraft

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Witchcraft, is still a big taboo all around the globe. People are scared to know about the realities of witchcraft for they cannot accept to free their minds from the social moralities. True knowledge has the power to banish all the myths and misconceptions. Here I share some knowledge from my Wiccan wisdom.

As a Wiccan, I have seen how people have misunderstood the concepts of our belief system, and considered it a sin. Apart from homosexuality, black “magick”, nudity and the rituals in graveyard, most people associate witchcraft with the Devil because of its ideas about “sex”.

Wiccans have considered the sex a purest form of meditation and a sacred ritual in order to honor the element of lust and fertility deities. We believe that when a person surrenders to the lust that exists within, it takes their consciousness to a higher dimensions.

Love, and its close sibling lust, have manifested themselves in various forms, and at various levels. In Hindi, the love of mother is called “vatsalya”, sometimes love is “karuna”, or compassion. The love for talents within is “passion”. The love for God is “devotion”. Similarly, lust may not be only about the sexual attraction, but also about romantic gestures. In Hindu Mythology, the God of Lust, Kaam Deva is married to Rati the Goddess of love, carnal desire, and romance.

We all are in a hurry. We have no time to do rituals of love with patience. And we are all, in our subconscious minds, afraid to accept lust as a positive element,the reason being that we are never taught the realities of love. It is considered shameful even to talk about.

Was it because of our religions? Definitely not! It was the human mind that could not accept it, and considered it a sin. They say once you get rid of lust, you become divine; you reach higher realms. I could never accept this belief. I do not say that having sex daily will make you feel divine, but I would rather say, when you feel the lust within, let it be your emotion, let it be your thought, let it be your feeling.

Kahlil Gibran. Source: Wikimedia Commons.

The Lebanese-American poet Kahlil Gibran once wrote:

“When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
And when he speaks to you believe in him.”

To people who experience the element of lust is not under your control and will never be. Those who say that they have overcome lust? False. They are denying their own reality. Lust has its own will. It is a natural element and only the nature will rule over it. It manifests itself in different beings differently. If lust was under the control of our will, homosexuality would have turned into heterosexuality by now! If you experience lust, but you repress it, it eats you from within. During my time in a convent school, the nuns I met and observed were mostly cruel and seemed very frustrated. They would beat children with a thin stick. Could they have been uncomfortable about denying sexuality? Accepting your elements make you feel relaxed, you become humble, you enjoy the whole existence.

In witchcraft, many magicians have developed Rituals in which they have practiced sex magick. It’s no different in the old tantra tradition, where the energy of lust is directed into spells and rituals, which makes the intent and will of the magician strong enough to bring out positive changes in themselves, calm the mind, and reach higher realms.
Wicca believes in accepting and allowing the elements to play over the mind. One has to witness the games of inner elements and this is true meditation.

Here is a small part from the “Raam Charit Manas”. Goswami Tulsidas says:

Pashu pachhi nabh jal thal Chaari | Bhaye kaam bas samaya bisari ||
Dev danuj nar kinnar byala | prêt pisaach bhoot betala ||
Sidh birakth mahamuni yogi | tepi kaambas bhaye biyogi ||

He explains that when the God of lust increased his intensity in every being, they forgot about the world, about the time. Every living and dead being was under the control of lust. The deities, the demons, people of all genders with various sexualities, saints, God men, the hermits and the sages—everyone was under the effect of lust.

Goswami Tulsidas accepts this reality that the lust within us activates itself, it expresses itself, one feels it within.
What happens when you repress yourself and this beautiful element? One may end up doing something ugly.Today, we see cases of sexual violence all over the globe. We blame politics, systems, society, men and women. But where is the positive side of sex? The more you repress it, the more it tortures you.

Goya’s “Witches’ Sabbath”. Source: Wikimedia Commons

We have polluted love by the feelings of insecurity, guilt, and fear. They say “We were in love”, but then later it turns into something destructive. I believe that the only reason is that we tried to control the other person out of fear. Wicca does not believe in the concept of marriage; we believe in the state in which the lovers tune themselves into each other, naturally, rather than a commitment that binds them under law.

Lust is just like anger, the more you control it and repress it, the more dangerous it becomes. When you feel lust or love for someone, let it be a beautiful experience, consensually, without breaching a boundary. Witness your inner feelings and emotions, do not push yourself or be in a hurry. Give it some time. Let it grow, and nourish yourself with patience. It will give you freedom. Till the time it is there within you, allow it to penetrate into the depth of our consciousness without any fear. Respect your partner’s freedom, do not make commitments, let the love be a beautiful ritual.

Friedrich Nietzsche, a great philosopher, said: “That which is done out of love always takes place beyond good and evil.

I have said enough about Love, now let it speak for you. Free yourself from moralities and allow your awareness to feel what is natural within you. I can never teach you to love, only love will teach you about itself. Love will light the way, all you have to do is follow it.

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