Everyone is struggling in their lives. Some are struggling “to identify what they want to be,” while others are battling “to be what others want them to be.” To achieve acceptability from society, family, friends, and colleagues, people are constantly struggling.
But in this struggle, everyone is “fighting” with their “soul” that wants to be free from the Do’s and Dont’s decided by the society. Everyone is expected to follow these unexplained rules, and questioning them would make them an outcast.
Society advocates to use silence as a tool to deal with difficult situations in life. It tells you to be silent when people rob you of your dreams, when you have to save a relationship, and even when you are mistreated.
The problem is that we don’t make relationships for fulfilling the emptiness of our life but because society wants you to have it. According to Society, if you don’t have a vast circle of friends you are not social. Being single means, you must be having some problem. If you don’t have a high paying job, then you are worthless. If you don’t have good grades, then you have no talent. Society has an endless list of parameters of judging and rejecting you. And, to meet society’s parameters to be acceptable, people struggle with life and fight with their souls. In such a situation, people lose out on the opportunity of being and discovering themselves.
People are asked to stay quiet and calm down their emotions. Crying is associated with weakness, while smiling too often is considered as not being mature enough. Also, as per the society’s standards, expressing anger and disagreement is unacceptable. This extreme silence of not saying what you want to say, and not doing what you want to do, makes people often fall into “depression.” A phase of utter sadness, loneliness, and pain. A phase when you become far quieter then you are told to be, and you stop responding to anything because then everything becomes “normal” to you. When in depression, people stop questioning because they get used to bearing the burden of patriarchy and societal norms and expectations. The “voice of my right, my choice” gets suppressed into silence, and the life becomes a burden.
In these circumstances, all you need is someone who listens to you without judging, will accept without restrictions, and will love you the way you are. Such friendships or relationships will set you free and cure your scarred soul.