To All The Nosy Relatives Who Are Worried About My Marriage

What is the right age of marriage for a girl? Who gets to decide this for us? As soon as we turn 25, the wedding bells should automatically start chiming for us. I have no clue who has set 25 (30 for men) as the standard age for women to get married. But if you are in your late twenties or early thirties and still unmarried, God save you from all the badgering. And that too, from all the people, who have no right to interfere in your life in the first place! Don’t you want to say to all these people, “Who Are You!”

I have written a verse answering all those hounding questions, which we generally avoid or give a polite response to. If only we could say this to their face!

Get married beta, it is already late.

Well thank you, aunty, I’ll rather wait.

But what about your biological clock?

It seems only you can hear the tick tock.

Why haven’t you found a match yet?

Because you see, I am par excellence.

You must be secretly dating the one.

Bingo, I will let you know when I elope.

Let your parents have some solace.

Did they hire you as their advocate?

You should consider it more earnestly.

Ain’t you doing that for me already?

But one needs “that” companion.

Oh! You mean for sexual relation?

Would you not get married ever?

I am tired of your questions so “clever.”

Get married beta, it is already late.

Well thank you, aunty, I’ll rather wait…

PS: Aunty here represents anyone and everyone who has ever popped these questions.

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