Every other day I get to hear news on rape. Sometimes of an eight month old, sometimes of a teenager, sometimes of a married woman and sometimes even of the fragile old women. The situation has fallen so low that even animals aren’t spared now.
Hearing all this a cold wave of disgust and anger passes my mind. Like who should we actually blame for this… The criminals or their parents for giving them such poor upbringing or the society who always deprived girls of their rights but forgot to teach values to their boys…
Its not something new if we see it properly… These actions and disrespect towards women can be rooted back in the history. The mythological stories that make our foundation are evident how miserably women were treated that resulted in destructive outcomes. The derobing of draupadi, which Duryodhan did to just to satisfy his male ego, which ofcourse Lord Krishna came to save the day but that does not change the fact that admist so many capable people sitting over there who followed their so called “dharma”, a woman had to loose her dignity. Same is with Ramayana, where taking away a woman without her consent was okay with the so called scholar, Ravan. And Rama, he did not even even try to hear sita’s side of story and she had to burn herself down and finally bury herself in the earth, to prove her purity.
The problem is not only rapes and the problem is not only with the guys. The problem is of our society and its mentality. The society, which always eyes on a girl wearing short clothes, partying late night, having boyfriends or drinking or any other thing that the society feels a “sanskaari” girl should not do… And that group of society does not only comprise of men, it comprises of the women too, who judge every other girl who does not fit their “sanskari” criteria. The society, who thinks a girl on her menstrual days is not pure to enter the temple, but celebrates the goddess in her menstrual phase. The society, who puts numerous rules and restrictions when a girl goes out, but forgets to ask questions to their boys. We live in a society where the girl is shamed off when she is raped, and not the criminal who did that crime. Our society slams a girl to be in a live-in relationship but never questions the boy who she lives with. When we ask questions to our mom and dad, we are asked to compromise. We are said learn to compromise or how will you adjust with your in laws.
Why should we compromise or follow these rules in the first place? Why are we shamed for wearing clothes exposing our body, when men can do that easily. We dont eye upon a boy moving around in boxers, then why would they. Who gave this right to the society to judge us or rape us with their eyes. And if exposing bodies is the only cause for rapes, then tell me the fault of the 8 month old baby, or the weak fragile grandmother or the poor stray animal…. Did they do anything too to excite our overexcited men.
The society has to change. Their mentality has to change. And I feel, this generation we are in, there are more of those people who can think in a rational way… I really salute those guys, who admist of such pathetic condition of women, are voicing up in their support. I adore their upbringing…. Recently, I came across a dance performance in a dance reality show. A group of boys performed on the words said by RJ Nawed. I really liked their message that why should we say “beti bachao, beti padhao”…. We are already putting girls in a vulnerable state with this slogan. Why not “beto ko batao aur na mane to thappar lagao”…. We really do not need to work on women empowerment, cause they are so capable to reach any heights by themselves, rather we should work on the mentality of the society that think “girls are weak”.
And, these politicians, and the hindu muslim activists, you guys keep on fighting with each other in the name of god. Because you cannot do anything better. A girl gets raped and is in a critical condition or dies, why would you care if that does not fit any of your religious agendas.
Until and unless, the mentality of each and every person changes in this society, we are doomed to live in this darkness forever. Every guy, every girl, evry parent has to realise that all of us co-exist. Nobody should be dominated by the existense of others. If every mother teaches her son, that girls are equal as them and not an object for them to prey upon. And, the criminals should be hanged till death, without wasting time on their mercy plea, they should be punished so severe that even their soul gets frightened. Then only the situation will change.
Otherwise, that day is near, when a mother would want to abort her girl child, not because they want a boy but because, they would be scared, if a girl is born, she would be raped someday……..