I am a normal human being who likes to derive pleasure from a sexual experience just like my parents, your parents, my relatives, your relatives and a billion other people in this world.
I am 20 years old and I have a girlfriend. I was making out with my her in a room we rented at a decent three-star hotel when we heard knocks on the door. I was shit scared as it might have been the police. Thank God, it wasn’t!
But why was I afraid of the police? I wasn’t doing something wrong. I completely believe that there is nothing wrong in premarital sex. I believe that each individual has the right to choose their sexual experiences. Then, why did I react in a way that was so contradictory to my beliefs?
Because my beliefs are something that I have acquired with a lot of introspection, reading, and exposure. And these beliefs don’t match the beliefs that I was brought up with. So, there is still a part of me that tries to make me believe that what I am doing is wrong.
In this case, I know that my parents won’t support me if I fight against the police even though I know that the law is on my side. I know for sure that I would feel ashamed at least for a second as soon as my parents know what I have been up to. Even though I don’t believe I am doing something wrong.
You may say that I am overreacting and I should quietly book at a decent hotel and move on with my business. But there are many mutually consenting couples whose privacy is invaded, they are caught by the police and further charged under prostitution, abduction of the girl and public indecency.
Why do the police feel empowered to do so even though the law doesn’t support them? Why should this thought even cross my mind if India is a ‘free’ country? Why do some men still feel entitled to a ‘virgin wife?’ Why are we afraid that our parents may know that we were having sex? Because that is the society they grew up in. Because there are far too many flag bearers of archaic morals in our country.
We can’t blame anyone. Even though education is a Fundamental Right in this country, we can’t expect people to behave in an educated way. This infection has spread to my generation too.
Do I want to see my kids feeling the same way as I am feeling now? NO!
It is clear that those marching with their age-old morals aren’t stopping anytime soon, even though they spread guilt, fear and hate. I believe that those with a different set of beliefs should vocalise their opinions confidently and instead spread love, openness and a better ethos in our society.
I vow to fight these age-old morals in my capacity when I am financially independent and I will talk to my kids about all these things so that they don’t feel guilty about it.
Love and happiness to whoever stumbles upon this.