There is a very serious issue that we all know, feel, relate to, but fail to address. The matter of marrying the one we love. We have consumed our thoughts, occupied our brains and tired ourselves in satisfying a demanding society, exhausting our most joyful years in stretching ourselves to balance between the expectations of our close and distant family, ignoring the very ethos of human psychological nature. Love is pretty unconditional. One doesn’t put conditions before falling in love with someone. Caste, status, parental reputation, houses, locations, degrees and all the mundane luxuries and requirements. You just fall in love. While the days pass and one starts getting known to the style and standard of living his beloved has been acclimatized and accustomed in. One gets aback by the fact of being incapable of providing the same, thus defying foolishly the actual realities. He becomes a romanticist and keeps consuming his life and perpetually keeps a hope alive that one day he will satisfy the demands that may be not verbal from his beloved, but in actuality exist, for getting the consent of her parents.
Love in our or any society is pretty unconditional, for nature affirms so, but Marriage in our irrational conservative society is brutally conditional, to an extent that you may not be given the hand of your beloved for a petty reason of not having an attached washroom to bedroom. The bigger conditions may break your bones: The House and its location; the caste; the status and reputation that you, your father, your grandfather and all freaking relatives have; the job you have; the vehicle, the age; the looks etcetera etcetera.
And if then, all these things match and you are fortunate enough to marry the person you love, you still have to live with the jibe of marrying on your own.
Our society sucks…
Our society needs to understand and choose:
Either to be liberally extreme or extremely liberal.
Either you marry your kids soon after their teens, and seal them for falling in love maturely with someone, or let them grow to choose their partner and don’t freaking interfere with your bullshit emotional honor torture.
P.S: Lives are getting ruined. I am witnessing one such.