By Arpit Chhikara:
Samaira and Angad always had sex without condoms. They loved the ‘raw sensation of pleasure’. Swallowing the emergency contraceptive pills (ECP) or i-pill every time after sex became their thing until one-day Samaira felt a sharp pain in her belly. Angad shares her story with Love Matters India.
*Angad, 27, is a marketing executive from Pune.
The first time I had sex with Samaira, we used a condom. One day we thought of making out without the condom to see whether it felt any different.
It felt so good we both decided to ditch the condom after that day. How come we never had this realisation before, we said to ourselves!
To avoid any risk, I gave Samaira an emergency oral contraceptive pill (ECP) that I had seen on television advertisements – the i-pill. Then we said bye to each other and she went back home.
Samaira had taken the i-pill for the first time. The next morning when she woke up, she called me and said she felt terribly nauseated. She could not go to her office in such a scenario and had to work from home.
Throughout the day a disgusting taste persisted in her mouth and she could not eat anything until dinner. She just drank orange juice. I was with her on phone almost all day, listening to her troubles.
Her mother became suspicious but she convinced her it was menstrual sickness and nothing much to worry about. Also, she was fine the next day and resumed office too.
For the next few months, Samaira and I always had unprotected sex. We were loving the raw sensation of pleasure. Swallowing the i-pill after sex eventually became our thing. Samaira also got used to the post-pill sickness. We still did not know what that little pill was doing to her.
One day, there was a sharp pain in her belly and she bled all day. It was not even time for her periods. It continued the next day and the pain worsened. We decided to rush to the doctor.
The gynecologist inquired about her past menstrual cycles and she told her that this issue of pain, cramps and irregular periods had come up recently. She then asked Samaira about her sex life. Samaira told the doctor that she was sexually active. The gynecologist wanted to know about the contraceptive methods we were using and she told her about the i-pill.
Looking at Samaira in shock, the doctor put down her pen and asked her if she was joking. She told her that it was a huge mistake to consume emergency oral contraceptive pills on such a frequent basis.
There are no shortcuts for contraception with pills. They are not a form of regular contraception but an emergency one. You can become infertile if you consume them for an extended period of time, said the doctor.
She was advised to stop using i-pill immediately and switch to condoms. The doctor also gave her a medicine to stop the bleeding and asked her to get checked for STDs. Those pills prevent pregnancy but not STDs said the doctor
She also explained Samaira about birth control pills but that can be used later because first, her periods have to resume to normal.
I didn’t want Samaira’s health to suffer at the cost of our sex life. She was just 24 and wanted to have kids in the future. Fortunately, she was safe from venereal diseases when the reports came.
We have decided to resort to using condoms for now. We experiment with condoms to keep it fun but more than that I am mentally relieved that it is safe for her as well as my health.
Editor’s Note: There is no limit as to how many times you can use the emergency-pill in a year. However, the ECP does have short-term side effects. That means it should not be used as a normal form of contraception, but only in case of emergency. Look for a form of long-term contraception that suits you here.
*To protect the identity, names have been changed and the person/s in the picture is/are models.
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