Relationships are like a puzzle to me. They are like those riddles which you think you have solved but at the last moment, you realise that you didn’t pay attention to a very important clue and therefore your answer is wrong. I have never been in one before, yet I have tried multiple times to try and solve this puzzle. There are so many happy couples around and there are happy singles as well. Then there are people like me who are confused about what they want in life. That has always been my situation. I wanted to be a radio jockey, pilot, doctor and so many more things.
At one point, I wanted to lead a double life where I could be a doctor to please my parents and be a radio jockey or a news anchor for myself. When it came to relationships, there were a bunch of crushes, some more than just a crush but nothing happened other than rejection. Sometimes I feel bad about it when I see happy couples and sometimes I feel relieved when I see the ones that break up and cannot move on. Its quite difficult for a millennial to have set plans and act accordingly because change is constant in your life and hence, the inevitable change in your desires and plans.
You remember your favourite song right? But then, do you remember that a while ago, there was a different song that used to be your favourite. I figured out something major about relationships when I thought of these songs. One is your favourite song. No matter how many favourites you have over time, there will always be one song that is bound to bring a smile to your face. Somewhat like the person who will be there for you no matter what. I believe that this is the key to so many long-standing relationships, you meet people, you crush on them, you get infatuated, but you come home to your comfort zone – the one.
It is okay to be infatuated with someone while you are in a relationship, it gives you a chance to see what you are missing, but at the end you go back to the person you love because of a simple reason – even if some things are missing, even if things are not perfect, that world is yours and it is what will make you smile forever. You might get bored, you might fight but you both know that no one understands you like the other.
Love is about the one person you can always remember to call when you are happy or sad. At some levels, ‘pyaar dosti hai’ (love is friendship) because no one understands you like a friend. When you love a person, s/he is the one you come home to and its a sense of ecstasy.
Also, despite debates that I have had with myself, I truly believe opposites match more, because you need relief from yourself when you are with someone you love and I wouldn’t be happy if I listen to stories that are similar to mine. The difference in thoughts and personalities is important to a certain extent to tell you that there is a different world beyond yours. It’s a kind of detox from yourself. It’s okay to be different because there should be a person who listens to you when you talk. There are chances that the person doesn’t understand what you are feeling but even that is okay. It’s a relief even if you are able to vent it out and then get a warm bear hug and someone to says that it is okay.
Its okay be in love and be confused. If you solve all the puzzles in one go, life will be boring.